Kids activities and custody time

[Anonymous]

I'm looking for advice as I explore child custody arrangements. I have 2 DC under the age of 8 and each plays sports or other after school activity, sometimes overlapping schedules. Right now when activities are at the same time, we each take 1 kid to their activity. How do you arrange for this if for example Saturday is 1 parents scheduled custody day? Just looking for tips and what to expect IRL.

[Anonymous]

I handle everything during my time. He handles everything during his.

[Anonymous]

Agree with the other poster. I am not sure why or how it would be any different.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I handle everything during my time. He handles everything during his.

This or talk to him and work it out. Who does it now?

[Anonymous]

I would split weekends. He gets one and you get the next. You need to make sure the activity times don’t conflict

[Anonymous]

We have 3 kids and always handled it like we did when married if they conflicted. One parent handled one and one parent the other. We didn't have strict rules.

[Anonymous]

We plan to help each other out on Saturdays and roll it into 1-1 time.

During the week mostly each will handle their own time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would split weekends. He gets one and you get the next. You need to make sure the activity times don’t conflict

Tell me your kids dint play sports without telling me your kids don't plays ports.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would split weekends. He gets one and you get the next. You need to make sure the activity times don’t conflict

Tell me your kids dint play sports without telling me your kids don't plays ports.

DP but wrong. I’ve figured out how to be in 2 places at once. Kids can be dropped early or picked up late, carpool, etc. Ex and I ask each other for help when we are really in a bind but there is no expectation; I’ll always do it if I can but won’t cancel a trip or big plans. Same goes for work travel, by the way. We both need coverage every now and then and we don’t keep score, but also if we can’t help it’s the person whose day it is problem.

[Anonymous]

You grow up and hire sitters to drive or arrange car pools.

[Anonymous]

Amicable divorce? Live close together and still do the same thing.

[Anonymous]

We take care of our own weekends unless there are special circumstances that we ask for support for in advance.

The understanding is that we are responsible for our own custody time and if there is a special circumstance we discuss it in advance and unless the mom custody parent has travel/inflexible plans, we help each other out. But this is only occasional for special circumstances.

I rely on carpool if there are overlaps.

[Anonymous]

We co- parent really well and get along. When the kids have to be in 2 different places at the same time, we each take a kid. Kids always come first. It does mean that dating is hard but I’m okay with that. Most days I’d rather be watching my kid do their thing than out on another bad first date.

[Anonymous]

Op here. Thanks for the people that responded with actual advice and didn't make demeaning comments. It's a sensitive time for our family and I'm just seeking advice on best way forward. Yes, my kids play recreational soccer and games are at various times on Saturdays on different fields. This is pretty standard in the DMV.
We coordinate activities right now but I was just wondering if that continues for most people after separation. We're both involved with our kids and would both like to be going forward. Was just looking for advice on best way going forward.

[Anonymous]

It's best for both of you to figure out a way to meet your kid's schedule on your own. Do not depend on each other. When your kids are in your custody they are in YOUR custody. Same for your spouse.

Ask for carpools. Friends. Family. Whatever is needed.