So characteristic, final straw!

[Anonymous]

Several days ago, two of my dear friends are visiting, the four of us including “D”H decide to go into city for nice dinner. He’s driving but gets lost on the way while I’m jabbering and can’t be his GPS like normal. Understand, we’ve lived within 1.5 miles of this restaurant for five years and go often. Once he figures out how to get there, he passes several on street parking spots that anyone with even the slightest urban sense would have attempted. He finally finds a spot to his liking but literally cannot parallel park after several tries. In the midst of multiple failed attempts, another driver sneaks into the spot. He complains but I say I can’t blame him. Ultimately, my friend’s husband volunteers to drive and expertly parks within minutes with DH blaming his declining “night vision.” To top it off, he leaves his wallet in the car and I end up paying. This is the way it goes in so many facets of life from the bedroom to home improvement to basic social skills. I admit he’s good at his job and earns a lot of money, but that only goes so far. I’d give it up for passion and someone who can hang dry wall.

[Anonymous]

Wow.
The level of disdain for your husband is what is driving you to loathe his small annoyances, and those are building to big irritations when you put them all together.
I recommend trying to be mindful that it’s your attitude toward him that are magnifying how you feel about these small things and not the other way around.
Recognize that things that are now so bothersome to you have always existed. But when you were I love with him—truly in love—you overlooked those things in your mind.

So you really just need to determine if that’s the space you want to live in.
You can choose to stay and be miserable.

Or, you have two other options:
1-choose to stay and start acting AS IF you love him again…until you do!
2–choose to leave and allow him to be loved by someone else who will adore him in spite of the annoying things that now drive you crazy.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like he’s getting old.

[Anonymous]

He sure doesn’t deserve you op. Do him a favor and leave him.

[Anonymous]

Have an affair? Get your rocks off!

[Anonymous]

You sound like a very critical person and you're probably difficult to be around. Please relay my condolences to him for marrying you.

[Anonymous]

At least you admit you couldn’t be bothered to STFU the entire car ride. Everyone is so sick of your jabbering.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He sure doesn’t deserve you op. Do him a favor and leave him.

I'm sure he wouldn't mind.

Notice she didn't bother to drive

[Anonymous]

Poor guy.

[Anonymous]

Why does it matter that you paid for the dinner instead of your DH? Do you have separate finances? Wouldn’t it just come out of the same general pot of money?

Strange hill to die on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Several days ago, two of my dear friends are visiting, the four of us including “D”H decide to go into city for nice dinner. He’s driving but gets lost on the way while I’m jabbering and can’t be his GPS like normal. Understand, we’ve lived within 1.5 miles of this restaurant for five years and go often. Once he figures out how to get there, he passes several on street parking spots that anyone with even the slightest urban sense would have attempted. He finally finds a spot to his liking but literally cannot parallel park after several tries. In the midst of multiple failed attempts, another driver sneaks into the spot. He complains but I say I can’t blame him. Ultimately, my friend’s husband volunteers to drive and expertly parks within minutes with DH blaming his declining “night vision.” To top it off, he leaves his wallet in the car and I end up paying. This is the way it goes in so many facets of life from the bedroom to home improvement to basic social skills. I admit he’s good at his job and earns a lot of money, but that only goes so far. I’d give it up for passion and someone who can hang dry wall.

Good luck.

You will probably end up with someone who "hangs drywall" and cheats or someone who hangs dry wall and cannot support themselves.

Most people have strengths and weaknesses. If your DH is a bad driver, uber. Outsource the other things he is bad at since he makes great money. That is such an easy fix.

[Anonymous]

The disdain op feels is ridiculous, given how much she enjoys his money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The disdain op feels is ridiculous, given how much she enjoys his money.

I didn’t see that she said she enjoys his money. This isn’t everyone’s main priority in life.

[Anonymous]

Are you all a million years old OP? Sure sounds like it. Maybe it's time for assisted living.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The disdain op feels is ridiculous, given how much she enjoys his money.

I didn’t see that she said she enjoys his money. This isn’t everyone’s main priority in life.

DP.

Stop being childish. Money does not have to be a priority in order for one to enjoy it. Almost every rational person would rather have more money than less.