If you are upper middle class parent, tell me why you sent your kid(s) to private schools?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We chose private because (1) I don't want my kids to have to compete at a school as big as Wilson with lots of great students, and (2) given the utter lack of reasonable gun safety measures in this country, I want my kids in a school where disturbed kids get counseled out.

So you’re for discriminating against kids who are different than you? And you don’t really believe in meritocracy because you want to limit the pool of students you’re kid has to compete with daily. So essentially you for aiding your kid to live in the world of make believe instead of the real world?

I wonder what the world would be like if all schools “counseled out” those “disturbed kids” or ones they didn’t like?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We chose private because (1) I don't want my kids to have to compete at a school as big as Wilson with lots of great students, and (2) given the utter lack of reasonable gun safety measures in this country, I want my kids in a school where disturbed kids get counseled out.

So you’re for discriminating against kids who are different than you? And you don’t really believe in meritocracy because you want to limit the pool of students you’re kid has to compete with daily. So essentially you for aiding your kid to live in the world of make believe instead of the real world?

I wonder what the world would be like if all schools “counseled out” those “disturbed kids” or ones they didn’t like?

You sound very disturbed.

The poster simply wants the best for their child and has the resources to provide a better environment for their child. That’s what money is for.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We chose private because (1) I don't want my kids to have to compete at a school as big as Wilson with lots of great students, and (2) given the utter lack of reasonable gun safety measures in this country, I want my kids in a school where disturbed kids get counseled out.

So you’re for discriminating against kids who are different than you? And you don’t really believe in meritocracy because you want to limit the pool of students you’re kid has to compete with daily. So essentially you for aiding your kid to live in the world of make believe instead of the real world?

I wonder what the world would be like if all schools “counseled out” those “disturbed kids” or ones they didn’t like?

I’m not sure why you’re surprised- discrimination against some group or another is the cornerstone of private schools. Lots of schools & families like to sugarcoat it, but ultimately discrimination is a key building block of what makes a private school. All the token attempts at “equity” and FA are really just window dressing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We chose private because (1) I don't want my kids to have to compete at a school as big as Wilson with lots of great students, and (2) given the utter lack of reasonable gun safety measures in this country, I want my kids in a school where disturbed kids get counseled out.

So you’re for discriminating against kids who are different than you? And you don’t really believe in meritocracy because you want to limit the pool of students you’re kid has to compete with daily. So essentially you for aiding your kid to live in the world of make believe instead of the real world?

I wonder what the world would be like if all schools “counseled out” those “disturbed kids” or ones they didn’t like?

Less school shootings, likely. They would go shoot up other places, i guess. I don't disagree with this posters opinion about weeding out deeply disturbed kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We chose private because (1) I don't want my kids to have to compete at a school as big as Wilson with lots of great students, and (2) given the utter lack of reasonable gun safety measures in this country, I want my kids in a school where disturbed kids get counseled out.

So you’re for discriminating against kids who are different than you? And you don’t really believe in meritocracy because you want to limit the pool of students you’re kid has to compete with daily. So essentially you for aiding your kid to live in the world of make believe instead of the real world?

I wonder what the world would be like if all schools “counseled out” those “disturbed kids” or ones they didn’t like?

I’m not sure why you’re surprised- discrimination against some group or another is the cornerstone of private schools. Lots of schools & families like to sugarcoat it, but ultimately discrimination is a key building block of what makes a private school. All the token attempts at “equity” and FA are really just window dressing.

By that logic anything that is fee based is discriminatory.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Because I live in a place (not east coast) where an amazing private is 22K.
Because I was over the public school teachers unions and their thinking over the pandemic
Because the privates went mask free early and stayed that way here in my state.
Because the teachers are invested in my child in a totally different way.

I had been an ardent supporter of public education till the pandemic. My kids will all do private HS.

Where and what school?

Colorado, wont specify which private though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:1. $300K + HHI is not upper middle class. Not in the DMV, or virtually anywhere in the USA. $300K is top 9th percentile in MD, top 6th percentile in VA, and top 10th percentile in DC.

2. We make $430K and are sending our kid to private school because we don’t want her wasting time on Chromebook games and state tests. We want her in small classes with teachers who can differentiate instruction. We want her to get the full slate of subjects, rather than math and reading to the detriment of other subjects. We want her to have access to great art and music opportunities. In sum: We can afford to give her a better education, so we are.

Same. We make $450 and have to stretch to send 2 kids to private but believe education is of the highest importance. So instead of buying a $2.5m home we are living more modestly and paying for private school.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:1. $300K + HHI is not upper middle class. Not in the DMV, or virtually anywhere in the USA. $300K is top 9th percentile in MD, top 6th percentile in VA, and top 10th percentile in DC.

2. We make $430K and are sending our kid to private school because we don’t want her wasting time on Chromebook games and state tests. We want her in small classes with teachers who can differentiate instruction. We want her to get the full slate of subjects, rather than math and reading to the detriment of other subjects. We want her to have access to great art and music opportunities. In sum: We can afford to give her a better education, so we are.

Same. We make $450 and have to stretch to send 2 kids to private but believe education is of the highest importance. So instead of buying a $2.5m home we are living more modestly and paying for private school.

Lol. You couldn’t afford a $2.5m home on that income regardless…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1. $300K + HHI is not upper middle class. Not in the DMV, or virtually anywhere in the USA. $300K is top 9th percentile in MD, top 6th percentile in VA, and top 10th percentile in DC.

2. We make $430K and are sending our kid to private school because we don’t want her wasting time on Chromebook games and state tests. We want her in small classes with teachers who can differentiate instruction. We want her to get the full slate of subjects, rather than math and reading to the detriment of other subjects. We want her to have access to great art and music opportunities. In sum: We can afford to give her a better education, so we are.

Same. We make $450 and have to stretch to send 2 kids to private but believe education is of the highest importance. So instead of buying a $2.5m home we are living more modestly and paying for private school.

Education is of higher importance to me also which is why I switched to private. That was a mistake that I assumed it would be superior to public, it hasn’t been and upwards of $30 thousand a year down the drain.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We chose private because (1) I don't want my kids to have to compete at a school as big as Wilson with lots of great students, and (2) given the utter lack of reasonable gun safety measures in this country, I want my kids in a school where disturbed kids get counseled out.

So you’re for discriminating against kids who are different than you? And you don’t really believe in meritocracy because you want to limit the pool of students you’re kid has to compete with daily. So essentially you for aiding your kid to live in the world of make believe instead of the real world?

I wonder what the world would be like if all schools “counseled out” those “disturbed kids” or ones they didn’t like?

I’m not sure why you’re surprised- discrimination against some group or another is the cornerstone of private schools. Lots of schools & families like to sugarcoat it, but ultimately discrimination is a key building block of what makes a private school. All the token attempts at “equity” and FA are really just window dressing.

By that logic anything that is fee based is discriminatory.

$5 to get into a show vs $40k to get into a school isn’t really a realistic comparison, but many private school parents don’t really do realism, so that tracks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We chose private because (1) I don't want my kids to have to compete at a school as big as Wilson with lots of great students, and (2) given the utter lack of reasonable gun safety measures in this country, I want my kids in a school where disturbed kids get counseled out.

So you’re for discriminating against kids who are different than you? And you don’t really believe in meritocracy because you want to limit the pool of students you’re kid has to compete with daily. So essentially you for aiding your kid to live in the world of make believe instead of the real world?

I wonder what the world would be like if all schools “counseled out” those “disturbed kids” or ones they didn’t like?

I’m not sure why you’re surprised- discrimination against some group or another is the cornerstone of private schools. Lots of schools & families like to sugarcoat it, but ultimately discrimination is a key building block of what makes a private school. All the token attempts at “equity” and FA are really just window dressing.

Sure. I’m positive that the very short list of public schools that DCUM posters find acceptable, to the point of having knife fights over $1m dilapidated 900 square-foot townhouses zoned for them, are super, super diverse.

[Anonymous]

I saw how awful the public school was for our SN kid and didn't want him or our younger non-SN kid to go through that. I always thought we would never send to private. We make less than $300K, and it is a major stretch, but we do have some family help, and it is worth it for us to know our kids are in a good place most of their days.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If you are coming from a private school can you visit your public school at this point (9th grade) to compare?

I’m afraid that a visit won’t tell you that much.
We actually did the K year in public and it was very helpful to have that reference point. Now going into private, we will be able to know if the tuition is worth it.

We did PK-2 in DCPS. Already seeing differences and DC hasn’t even started at the new school. Just looking at the daily schedule at the private, DC will get art, science and PE all in one day instead of just one of these. Next day: music, language and dance. These are mixed in with the core subjects, of course.

I’ll be reporting back on DCUM once DC has been there for awhile as I know many are wondering if it’s worth it. Of course, every child and school is different, but happy to share our experience.

Thank you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We chose private because (1) I don't want my kids to have to compete at a school as big as Wilson with lots of great students, and (2) given the utter lack of reasonable gun safety measures in this country, I want my kids in a school where disturbed kids get counseled out.

So you’re for discriminating against kids who are different than you? And you don’t really believe in meritocracy because you want to limit the pool of students you’re kid has to compete with daily. So essentially you for aiding your kid to live in the world of make believe instead of the real world?

I wonder what the world would be like if all schools “counseled out” those “disturbed kids” or ones they didn’t like?

I’m not sure why you’re surprised- discrimination against some group or another is the cornerstone of private schools. Lots of schools & families like to sugarcoat it, but ultimately discrimination is a key building block of what makes a private school. All the token attempts at “equity” and FA are really just window dressing.

Go back in time to the Soviet Union. If you work hard and have wealth, you have the right to allocate those resources to giving yourself and your kids the best that money can buy…otherwise, why work hard?

I’m not making sacrifices to get ahead if I can’t send my kids to the best schools possible paid for with my hard earned after tax dollars!

[Anonymous]

Because I wanted to send DC to school with other families who prioritize education. Also, because if there are problems with behavior, kids can be counseled out.