Urgent Contact - Dorothy Hamm Parents

[Anonymous]

Hello,

My daughter attends Dorothy Hamm middle school. Since I am new to the community, I'm in a bit of a bind as I am aware of behavior regarding my daughter and two of her friends that the other parents need to be aware of. It's somewhat urgent but I do not know the last names or their parents name and don't want to alert the students before I can discuss matters with their parents.

As it involves behavior outside of school, I do not want to involve the school especially before notifying the other parents. I spoke to the principal who cannot give me their information due to privacy which is understandable. However, I asked her to provide them with my phone and email but after two weeks have not heard from either parent.

Does anyone on this forum have advice on how I might proceed? This is about one concerned parent looking to give very needed information to other parents.

Thanks!

[Anonymous]

If you believe the Principal did what they said they did, there's nothing more you could/should do. The parents aren't interested in talking to you.

Otherwise, if your child has friends, generally, you should know these friends. Have them to the house. Ask simple, "what is your name, your last name, questions. This is middle school. They don't drive themselves. You pick up and introduce yourself to the parents.

[Anonymous]

Can you get the kids names from your child phone and search for their number on internet?

[Anonymous]

Something's not adding up here.

Why can't you just ask your daughter what their last names are?

You don't want to involve the school yet you've spoken to the principal? Seems like you HAVE involved the school.

[Anonymous]

In ideal circumstances I agree that I could ask more questions of the children. And I do have their first names and phone numbers from my daughter's phone.

However, everything has happened relatively quickly and the children are aware so without getting into details, their parents need to be contacted before I start asking the children questions (assuming I even get the opportunity to see them again).

I emailed the principal again today as it's possible she forgot but I do believe the parents should be contacted and that the school does not need to be involved.

The issue is reasonably serious that if I don't make progress I will inform the school but I would rather keep them out of it, something I think the other parents would agree with.

[Anonymous]

"Why can't you just ask your daughter what their last names are?"

Because they did something very bad and the parents have to know before the children understand that their parents will be notified.

[Anonymous]

"You don't want to involve the school yet you've spoken to the principal? Seems like you HAVE involved the school."

I have not told the school what happened. Believe me, it adds up. The principle understood as it involves behavior outside school. I also spoke with my attorney to ensure I am approaching this appropriately.

[Anonymous]

Are you talking about the wanker

[Anonymous]

This is not the place.

[Anonymous]

You don't know their names and wont tell us anything so how can we help you?

Take your daughters phone and do some digging.

[Anonymous]

It appears as if your heart is in the right place. But without details, you sound crazy. I would not call/email a random parent without details if the principal gave me your information. And I’m a helicopter parent and goody too-shoes, so I imagine parents that are more hands off really wouldn’t get back to you. You need to stop being a drama queen and provide details for further advice or let it go…

[Anonymous]

I thought perhaps their was a parent directory or something else the community would know about given I am new to the area.

I agree this is not the place it seems. I'll dig in other areas. I'm not crazy though, just a concerned parent who cannot share the details here.

[Anonymous]

"
It appears as if your heart is in the right place. But without details, you sound crazy. I would not call/email a random parent without details if the principal gave me your information. And I’m a helicopter parent and goody too-shoes, so I imagine parents that are more hands off really wouldn’t get back to you. You need to stop being a drama queen and provide details for further advice or let it go…"

I would call and judge their credibility easily enough. And upon sharing the details, the parents would certainly appreciate and immediately be able to validate the information I provided. But I will seek another way. Where I grew up, parents were all in contact and community was strong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I thought perhaps their was a parent directory or something else the community would know about given I am new to the area.

I agree this is not the place it seems. I'll dig in other areas. I'm not crazy though, just a concerned parent who cannot share the details here.

then stop posting here, it's just annoying. you're not going to get what you're looking for

[Anonymous]

Other parents don’t actually need to be aware of it. If it was that big a deal you’d get the students names from your daughter and figure it out yourself.