Explain this

[Anonymous]

In a world where most women go for looks, height, success and money , why some women with lots of choices go for love and friendship?

My BFF's DD 26 insists on staying with her average looking, short, perpetual student BF (undergrad, double grad, now PhD) even though (cultural matchmaking)she has highly successful and good looking tall men (26-32)willing to marry her as she is young, pretty, intelligent and earns well. She can date and marry any one of them and have a comfy life.


She says they'll build their life together in due time. When made aware of failure to launch phenomena and what it does to marriages, she says that happens to people with unrealistic expectations, she isn't looking for Instagram marriage, five star honeymoon and happily ever after and looks fade and height adds no real value to life.

What's wrong with her?

[Anonymous]

What’s wrong with her? Nothing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In a world where most women go for looks, height, success and money , why some women with lots of choices go for love and friendship?

My BFF's DD 26 insists on staying with her average looking, short, perpetual student BF (undergrad, double grad, now PhD) even though (cultural matchmaking)she has highly successful and good looking tall men (26-32)willing to marry her as she is young, pretty, intelligent and earns well. She can date and marry any one of them and have a comfy life.


She says they'll build their life together in due time. When made aware of failure to launch phenomena and what it does to marriages, she says that happens to people with unrealistic expectations, she isn't looking for Instagram marriage, five star honeymoon and happily ever after and looks fade and height adds no real value to life.

What's wrong with her?

Her BF doesn't sound like "failure to launch" if he's getting his Phd. And maybe the BF has qualities she love and she is clearly comfortable with him. But, yes, if she wants to marry, she needs to broach this with him sooner rather than later, imo.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In a world where most women go for looks, height, success and money , why some women with lots of choices go for love and friendship?

My BFF's DD 26 insists on staying with her average looking, short, perpetual student BF (undergrad, double grad, now PhD) even though (cultural matchmaking)she has highly successful and good looking tall men (26-32)willing to marry her as she is young, pretty, intelligent and earns well. She can date and marry any one of them and have a comfy life.


She says they'll build their life together in due time. When made aware of failure to launch phenomena and what it does to marriages, she says that happens to people with unrealistic expectations, she isn't looking for Instagram marriage, five star honeymoon and happily ever after and looks fade and height adds no real value to life.

What's wrong with her?

What’s wrong with you is that you use the term bff and are a grown woman.

Just to give perspective why her dilemmas matter to me.

[Anonymous]

Male here and will likely get angry comments on this; women are the same as men - the superficial catches your eye at first.

I could never approach a girl in HS/College or woman at a bar, flex my muscles and ...

What I could do is talk to one intelligently, if I got a few chances to talk - the belle of the ball would a close friend. When I thought it was all friendzone - I was surprised on how many girls actually got attached.

When I complained of having no luck with girls at college, my friends laughed and said I was the most connected. I'm always having lunch, walking, talking, or dancing with some girl. No way would I pass of as: rich, tall, or handsome. Those guys play the short game.

So the PHD dude is probably connected at an intellectual level and good for both of them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In a world where most women go for looks, height, success and money , why some women with lots of choices go for love and friendship?

My BFF's DD 26 insists on staying with her average looking, short, perpetual student BF (undergrad, double grad, now PhD) even though (cultural matchmaking)she has highly successful and good looking tall men (26-32)willing to marry her as she is young, pretty, intelligent and earns well. She can date and marry any one of them and have a comfy life.


She says they'll build their life together in due time. When made aware of failure to launch phenomena and what it does to marriages, she says that happens to people with unrealistic expectations, she isn't looking for Instagram marriage, five star honeymoon and happily ever after and looks fade and height adds no real value to life.

What's wrong with her?

What’s wrong with you is that you use the term bff and are a grown woman.

+1
She also said “comfy.”

People aren't posting here for language lessons, if you are a great teacher, public schools need you.

[Anonymous]

I married my MD, PhD, boyfriend. He was poor for a long time and I was perfectly fine with that.

If you cannot grasp that some of us need cerebral spouses, then I can't help you, OP.

[Anonymous]

The only wrong thing with her is that she humors your stupid questions and actually answers them.

[Anonymous]

What's wrong with her? Nothing.
What's wrong with you? Oh right, you are a troll.

[Anonymous]

I think OP is seeing it as not good looking AND won't make money.

Plenty of short, unattractive rich guys have stunning wives . . . because of their money.

There could be many reasons why this woman prefers her short, unattractive, iffy on income guy. But it's non of OP's business.

[Anonymous]

Lots of different thing going on here.

On a planet with 10 billion people, no hard and fast rule will apply to everyone.

The lessons we learn as we age are very hard to understand in your 20s. A lot of it is just retrospective learning. The drudgery of life is really hard to understand before you live it.

“Youth is wasted on the young.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What's wrong with her? Nothing.
What's wrong with you? Oh right, you are a troll.

+1

[Anonymous]

I'll be glad to explain.

it's none of your damn business you judgemental narrow minded gossiping b**ch.

now go about your business and stay away from anyone else's relationships.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In a world where most women go for looks, height, success and money , why some women with lots of choices go for love and friendship?

My BFF's DD 26 insists on staying with her average looking, short, perpetual student BF (undergrad, double grad, now PhD) even though (cultural matchmaking)she has highly successful and good looking tall men (26-32)willing to marry her as she is young, pretty, intelligent and earns well. She can date and marry any one of them and have a comfy life.


She says they'll build their life together in due time. When made aware of failure to launch phenomena and what it does to marriages, she says that happens to people with unrealistic expectations, she isn't looking for Instagram marriage, five star honeymoon and happily ever after and looks fade and height adds no real value to life.

What's wrong with her?

She's afraid to grab for the brass ring, as they say. She's playing it safe. The main tell is when it's pointed out to her that her BF is failure to launch, and not really in her league, she gets defensive and deflects by talking about Instagram marriages and five star honeymoons instead of addressing the fact that she's dating a dud.

[Anonymous]

2/10.