If a man or woman is over 39 and never married what do you think?

[Anonymous]

Of them? I know you people judge everyone so what is the first thing that pops in your mind when meeting someone like this?

[Anonymous]

Nothing based off that fact alone.

[Anonymous]

Undiagnosed and/or untreated mental illness.

[Anonymous]

I don't judge. I'm mid-40s and know enough people in this category to know it can come from a wide range of reasons, including:

- The timing of prior relationships got in the way of a lasting one
- They may have been focused on other things (everything from work to caring for an ailing parent to getting out of debt to dealing with mental health issues) which postponed them looking for a partner
- They may have something in their background that makes them averse to marriage (parents had a bad divorce, some kind of sexual or emotional trauma)
- A very specific or rigid personality that would require a very specific kind of partner, who they maybe never met

And others. I judge people based on how they treat me and interact with me. I do not judge people based on whether or not they are married (or have kids) by a certain point in life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Undiagnosed and/or untreated mental illness.

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DH never thought marriage was necessary, until we started dating, and I told him that one day I want to be married, not necessarily to him, but I believe in marriage.

We got married when he turned 39. He has a couple of friends who never officially married, but they have been with their s/o more than 10 years.

Some people just don't see marriage as necessary.

[Anonymous]

If it's a man they're either a scoundrel or socially inept. Or gay.

[Anonymous]

Lucky.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lucky.

That’s a failure of you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Undiagnosed and/or untreated mental illness.

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DH never thought marriage was necessary, until we started dating, and I told him that one day I want to be married, not necessarily to him, but I believe in marriage.

We got married when he turned 39. He has a couple of friends who never officially married, but they have been with their s/o more than 10 years.

Some people just don't see marriage as necessary.

Ok, and? OP asked what we thought as individuals. And you're obnoxiously arrogant for implying YOU changed his mind.

[Anonymous]

I am jealous.

[Anonymous]

That they weren't interested in marriage or marruage didn't happen for them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Undiagnosed and/or untreated mental illness.

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DH never thought marriage was necessary, until we started dating, and I told him that one day I want to be married, not necessarily to him, but I believe in marriage.

We got married when he turned 39. He has a couple of friends who never officially married, but they have been with their s/o more than 10 years.

Some people just don't see marriage as necessary.

Ok, and? OP asked what we thought as individuals. And you're obnoxiously arrogant for implying YOU changed his mind.

And? I was stating my opinion, just as you are.

Clearly I did change his mind since he had been in a ltr before and didn't get married. He said he knew he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me. Married 20+years.

Someone seems bitter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Undiagnosed and/or untreated mental illness.

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DH never thought marriage was necessary, until we started dating, and I told him that one day I want to be married, not necessarily to him, but I believe in marriage.

We got married when he turned 39. He has a couple of friends who never officially married, but they have been with their s/o more than 10 years.

Some people just don't see marriage as necessary.

Ok, and? OP asked what we thought as individuals. And you're obnoxiously arrogant for implying YOU changed his mind.

And? I was stating my opinion, just as you are.

Clearly I did change his mind since he had been in a ltr before and didn't get married. He said he knew he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me. Married 20+years.

Someone seems bitter.

No, you were saying my opinion was invalid.

And you don't sound like a catch, FYI!

[Anonymous]

That they didn't want kids, and didn't care about having a wedding.

[Anonymous]

They lost their soulmate in childhood or early adulthood tragedy and haven’t gotten far enough along in the grieving.