Send a thank you note for gift that never arrived?

[Anonymous]

I received a notification from an Etsy shop that a friend sent me a gift.

The gift never arrived and it’s been months.

Should I let giver know they gift never arrived, so they know not to order from that Etsy shop again? Maybe it was a scam?

I don’t want to seem like my main aim is to get the gift, which is something I’ll never use anyway.

It just struck me the person might wonder why I never thanked them after it arrived.

[Anonymous]

Yes you should totally check with the friend. I would have checked immediately to be honest because I assume emails like that are scams and want you to click the link.

[Anonymous]

To clarify, she did send me the gift. That part is true. I told her I received the notice and she said she wished they’d not sent that.

I already thanked her but I would normally send another thank you after the gift arrived to express appreciation.

Since it never showed up, I was thinking I could thank her for the intention and mention I look forward to its arrival. That would drop the hint that they didn’t ship the gift.

[Anonymous]

Why don't you start by contacting the seller directly?

[Anonymous]

I would have let her know immediately so the seller could remedy it. I've also noticed a lot of etsy has turned into a cesspool of drop shippers shipping things from china rather than actual handmade items. A friend sent me a baby gift last year through etsy that took 4-5mo to arrive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would have let her know immediately so the seller could remedy it. I've also noticed a lot of etsy has turned into a cesspool of drop shippers shipping things from china rather than actual handmade items. A friend sent me a baby gift last year through etsy that took 4-5mo to arrive.

Edit to add: her credit card may offer purchase protection/reimbursement as well as letting etsy know if this person is scamming. If it is the shipping company they carry insurance and should be notified also.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To clarify, she did send me the gift. That part is true. I told her I received the notice and she said she wished they’d not sent that.

I already thanked her but I would normally send another thank you after the gift arrived to express appreciation.

Since it never showed up, I was thinking I could thank her for the intention and mention I look forward to its arrival. That would drop the hint that they didn’t ship the gift.

Don’t do the bolded because it would seem incredibly passive aggressive. Why not just tell her that you were just thinking of this and realized it never arrived.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I received a notification from an Etsy shop that a friend sent me a gift.

The gift never arrived and it’s been months.

Should I let giver know they gift never arrived, so they know not to order from that Etsy shop again? Maybe it was a scam?

I don’t want to seem like my main aim is to get the gift, which is something I’ll never use anyway.

It just struck me the person might wonder why I never thanked them after it arrived.

Are you stupid? Tell the intended gift giver that you don’t get the gift!!!

[Anonymous]

This is such a dumb post. It has been months and you didn't get the gift. Why didn't you ever tell your friend?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is such a dumb post. It has been months and you didn't get the gift. Why didn't you ever tell your friend?

I was sick and in the hospital and then took many weeks to recover. But, okay, call my post dumb. You are rude and full of assumptions.

OP