Stopping at 2 kids..

[Anonymous]

How did you decide to stop at 2 kids or decide to have more? We are on the fence about baby #3.

[Anonymous]

Realistically just didn't have the time to devote to a third with work and 2 kids.

[Anonymous]

Someone once framed it: Can you tolerate 50% more (fill in the blank)?

Some things to fill in the blank with:

Whining
Night wake ups
Activities
Noise
Illnesses

Obviously things like night wakeups don't last forever, but I knew that i didn't want to deal with it, even for a few years.

I'm an introvert and like my free time and felt like I'd be stretched too thin with 3.

[Anonymous]

Pregnancy with #2 is doing it for me tbh

[Anonymous]

1. Is the best thing you can do for the environment.
2. We had the bandwidth for another typically developing child, but not a high-needs child. Nobody thinks they’re going to get the kid with severe disabilities, but it happens.
3. We looked at the projected cost of college. If you haven’t looked in awhile, it’s staggering.

[Anonymous]

Meh.

We went for a third. She’s great - I’m nursing her now. I love my kids. We can cover college for all three. Will it be hard logistically at times? Yes. Would it be hard with two logistically? Also yes. If you want three you will have three, barring fertility issues.

[Anonymous]

I knew while I was pregnant with my second kid that we were done. Our lifestyle with 2 kids has been just what we can handle with managing schedules and activities, both of us working full-time, not having local family in the area, etc. I'm an introvert as well and the noise and needs with 2 can be a lot for me at times. Also, traveling as a family of 4 has been easier for us than if we had 3 kids (we can fit in a standard hotel room). I also really disliked the baby stage so I wasn't itching for another baby. My kids are in elementary school now and I am happy with the family we have.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Realistically just didn't have the time to devote to a third with work and 2 kids.

This. Also my 2nd was at 37, just didn’t want to repeat the experience at 39+ (and don’t want to get pregnant immediately either).

I wanted to have 3, but by the time my second was born, I realized that for me to manage a 3rd and some sanity, I should have had my first two starting from my mid 20s.

[Anonymous]

I've been trying for 3 years, since 36 for #3. I've lost 5 so far. By far the absolute worst thing that's ever happened to me. I had zero issues with #1 and 2.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Someone once framed it: Can you tolerate 50% more (fill in the blank)?

Some things to fill in the blank with:

Whining
Night wake ups
Activities
Noise
Illnesses

Obviously things like night wakeups don't last forever, but I knew that i didn't want to deal with it, even for a few years.

I'm an introvert and like my free time and felt like I'd be stretched too thin with 3.

Wouldn’t it be 30% with a third?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've been trying for 3 years, since 36 for #3. I've lost 5 so far. By far the absolute worst thing that's ever happened to me. I had zero issues with #1 and 2.

I ask this respectfully, but why did you keep trying after several losses? What is it about three kids that drives you to go through it again?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Someone once framed it: Can you tolerate 50% more (fill in the blank)?

Some things to fill in the blank with:

Whining
Night wake ups
Activities
Noise
Illnesses

Obviously things like night wakeups don't last forever, but I knew that i didn't want to deal with it, even for a few years.

I'm an introvert and like my free time and felt like I'd be stretched too thin with 3.

Wouldn’t it be 30% with a third?

No, you are increasing the number of kids you have by 50%. If you go from 3 to 4, that would be increasing the number of kids you have by 33.3%

[Anonymous]

My reproductive system petered out when we tried Baby 3. We're assuming it's not going to happen at this point.

Also, I had my kids at 25 and 30. It was GREAT, and my younger age is the reason they're here. Now I'm infertile due to autoimmune issues. If I'd started later I wouldn't have kids at all.

Not everyone can keep popping out kids...

[Anonymous]

Love is infinite…money, time and energy are finite. We didn’t want to take any more time/energy/money away from our two kids. Now both are teens and in busy extracurriculars and I don’t know how we could logistically manage a third.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
My reproductive system petered out when we tried Baby 3. We're assuming it's not going to happen at this point.

Also, I had my kids at 25 and 30. It was GREAT, and my younger age is the reason they're here. Now I'm infertile due to autoimmune issues. If I'd started later I wouldn't have kids at all.

Not everyone can keep popping out kids...

I have no known issues and it's the same, but suspected autoimmune activity and blood clotting disorder that wasn't significant in my early 20s and 30s.