How to signal to men that I’m marriage material

[Anonymous]

I just feel like I cannot get the right kind of attention from provider kind-set men who want a wife and a family.

I seem to atttract the artsy low earner bohemian types.

What should I do?

[Anonymous]

The question is why are you "marriage material"?

[Anonymous]

My poor scientist boyfriend became a wealthy husband, OP. If both of you are on the younger side, you can be with someone with potential and drive rather than someone who has already "arrived".

[Anonymous]

Describe yourself. Why do you attract bohos?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My poor scientist boyfriend became a wealthy husband, OP. If both of you are on the younger side, you can be with someone with potential and drive rather than someone who has already "arrived".

True, but you're comparing apples and oranges. Her "artsy low earner bohemian types" apples are very different from your "poor scientist boyfriend" oranges.

[Anonymous]

stop trolling dcum and you might have some luck

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The question is why are you "marriage material"?

+1 I'm wealthy and have a career. I expect the same from a partner.

[Anonymous]

Play hard to get.

[Anonymous]

Where are you meeting these men?

[Anonymous]

Stop being vapid for a start. Your “fun” and “down for anything” vibe is antithetical to a wife married to a high quality guy.

[Anonymous]

You're wealthy, you say? Hire a matchmaker and tell them what you want. They will only match you with men who want to and are ready to get married.

[Anonymous]

Practice with a banana.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You're wealthy, you say? Hire a matchmaker and tell them what you want. They will only match you with men who want to and are ready to get married.

+1, or do it yourself by going places where other wealthy people socialize and network. Did you go to a highly ranked school? Attend alumni events. Get involved with organizations that fundraise and sponsor civic-minded events likely to attract people who are well-educated professionals. When you go out to bars with friends, go to bars in neighborhoods with higher-income people and stick to higher end places.

What are your hobbies? If you are attracting bohemian artsy types but not professionals (in a town FULL of professionals), I'm guessing you need to make adjustments here. Do you play any sports? Does your company have a softball team? That can be a good way to meet people. Or join wine-tasting or dinner clubs, where the whole point is people enjoying something kind of pricy and rarified. Do NOT making drinking, going out dancing, or brunching with friends your "hobbies." You can do these things, but they aren't extra-curriculars. In fact, examine your alcohol consumption -- if you have a tendency to drink to excess or focus most weekend activities on drinking, consider balancing that out some. Someone who wants to get married and have kids might find a partier fun for a night, but they aren't going to start a longterm relationship with one.

Travel, read books, work on your career. Look at your friend group -- do they hang out with a professional, marriage-minded crowd, or is it an artsy party crowed? You don't have to drop friends completely but if you are focused on a certain future lifestyle, look to spend as much time as you can with people who share those goals. You can still hang out with your artistic friends but you will meet more of the kind of man you want to meet if you also have more professional, marriage-minded friends who will expand your network of people in that mindset.

[Anonymous]

Meet men in church instead of online.

[Anonymous]

Are you the kind of wife they are looking for?