How old are you? Are you more open minded than your parents?
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If so, how?
Are your kids more open minded than you? Again, describe how. |
Anonymous
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44, yes, totally. My mom thinks she is "hip" and "open-minded" but still talks about the one gay person she knew in the 1960s like that's her passport into modern culture. She's also totally racist while pretending not to be. My dad is no longer alive but he was very much of a different generation that pretended to not have encountered anything that wasn't white people in nuclear families going to office jobs. He didn't reject a more open-minded perspective so much as live his life as if anyone who wasn't like him did not exist.
It is not hard to be more open minded than that, and I mean both in the sense of being curious and in the sense of being accepting. |
Anonymous
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Definitely more open-minded than my parents. My mother thinks all gay people who are around children (of any gender) are child predators and have HIV. She saw a black guy walking down the street carrying a golf umbrella and told us (immediate family) she often saw black men walking down the street carrying rifles. She never went anywhere without our dad so my brother asked him if he too often saw this and my dad said no, never.
My son just told me the girl he's taking to prom goes by they/them pronouns after talking about "her" for a month - it was an "Oh, I've been making a mistake - Claudia goes by they/them." I will obviously try to use the right ones because it's no skin off my back, but I don't understand it. Of course I don't need to understand to accept, but it'd be nice if I did. He said "gender is just a social construct." I am not sure I agree with that. |
Anonymous
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38, parents are 77 and 78. Yes, I'm much more open minded than them. They aren't outwardly racists or homophobes or anything like that, but they definitely don't "get" a lot of the deviations from basic straight/gay or a lot of the hot topic political issues like BLM. They are definitely more close minded when it comes to poverty/homelessness/addiction as well.
They both grew up in small towns. My mom especially grew up in a town which had a very hard divide between the well off (my mom's family) and the working class (fishermen). It was also a very white town and when we used to visit she could point out the house that had the Jewish family that lived in town. My dad grew up less well off, but he also grew up in a farming community so that had its own issues. My dad definitely changed his world view more than my mom, and I think it is because he grew up a lot less well off than my mom. He had zero problem accepting my brother when he came out as gay (neither did my mom but I think my dad fell into that stereotype of someone who would be bothered by it). |
Anonymous
| I am 55. Both my parents are dead, so I guess I might be more open minded than them. |
Anonymous
| My mom used to be more progressive than me, but COVID isolation and the social media algorithm echo chamber has really, really warped her views and she’s said things recently that have made me pretty uncomfortable. She lives alone, far away. Catching up with her is gradually becoming less pleasant so I don’t want to do it as much, which I’m sure compounds the problem |
Anonymous
Social media algorithm echo chamber?! What the hell are you talking about? |
Anonymous
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44. YES!
Each generation has it's own eye-openers. My European grandmother was a white supremacist and monarchist. She was persuaded to participate in elections in her old age by her children. My parents' generation has racial prejudices which have been corrected by their children many times until they at least developed political correctness, if not an actual change of heart. My generation strives to be self-aware about their racial prejudices and LBGTQ+ ignorance and my teens (the oldest of their generation in the family) have educated us on white privilege and gender questions. It's all going in the right direction. |
Anonymous
On the wrong track. |
Anonymous
| 50s and I think I'm more open minded than 80s parents. 30s child probably thinks the same about me. |
Anonymous
| Most of you are responding here are ridiculous virtue-signalers. And closed-minded. |
Anonymous
How? The question is how are you more open minded than your parents. If your parents are literal white supremists or hate gay people, that is pretty closed minded... if you are neither of those things, you are automatically more open minded. |
Anonymous
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I'm 35, Mom is 57. She's pretty open minded. We are white, and I dated/married a POC and she has never been anything but supportive. Same with LGBTQ issues, the environment, etc.
My grandpa was a straight up racist (gone now), so I'm glad she was more progressive than him. |
Anonymous
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I am 31. I'm about as open-minded to my dad, which is to say pretty open-minded. My dad is chill and has a live and let live attitude about most things, even if he finds them weird or doesn't agree with them.
I'm not really sure how to compare myself to my mom. She is like the liberal version of a MAGA idiot, so I don't know if she's truly open-minded so much as she just wants to signal that she's better than people. |
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39, mom/dad 64 and yes, WAY more. Although my dad is pretty open minded but even he has some weird old person biases. My husband is 42 and his parents are in their 70s and he is DRASTICALLY more open minded than they are.
My kids are still little but I think they likely will be more open minded than me and I try to tell myself when some gen z statement makes me roll my eyes that this is how I feel about my parents and that makes me pause and kind of reconsider it. |