Do you give a gift when your son or daughter gets engaged?
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Anonymous
| What's customary among upper middle class? |
Anonymous
| We threw them an engagement party. |
Anonymous
| And a wedding. |
Anonymous
| My 25 years old DS recently got engaged and we paid off his wife 100K student loan. We also gave them 750K for a 50% down payment on a home. That was our gift to them. |
Anonymous
| Wife to be I meant to say. |
Anonymous
| No gift, just a fat cheque |
Anonymous
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Never heard of this except in super rich circles. When my kids got engaged, we had a lovely BBQ to celebrate. My parents and DH's parents did the something similar as did everyone else we know.
Token gifts are often given but similar in cost to a host/hostess gift and usually related to the household. |
Anonymous
Too young in these times for a male to be getting married. I hope you have money set as side for their divorce. |
Anonymous
I would have waited for the president to pay off that loan |
Anonymous
Check now cheque. What it is about elites and their need to be someone they are not? |
Anonymous
Precisely |
Anonymous
| My parents gave us $40K to go towards our wedding. DH’s parents gave us $15K. My MIL also got me a bag of fun “bride” tchotchkes to celebrate. |
Anonymous
| Mine paid for our wedding. |
Anonymous
| Double strand of pearls for our future DIL. Gold watch for our future SIL. |
Anonymous
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If parents are contributing to the costs of the wedding, then why on earth do they need to give something on top of that? |