Mood gone during the brief window

[Anonymous]

Any couples out there have a "rough" patch that of course has to correspond with the expected ovulation time, resulting in lost chances? I guess it's bad timing/bad luck, to have an argument or something disruptive happen when the romance/action should take priority.

[Anonymous]

Happened to me on Monday, the day before I ovulated, big argument and no sex. Let's hope Sunday's session worked

[Anonymous]

I actually found myself getting annoyed with DH every time I was ovulating. It must have been the hormones and all the pressure I was putting on myself to make it all happen. I just learned to suck it up and not get into a fight and make sure that we did it. Always seemed to realize afterward that the little thing that was bugging me really wasn't a big deal at all.

[Anonymous]

YES. I was certain I was ovulating yesterday - spotting, day 13 (normal for me), mucus, etc - and DH didn't want to have sex because we'd had sex the two nights before. I'm determined this time that the BFN won't be for lack of trying. Anyway, he complained about the sex being "contrived" and I got really annoyed and emotional. I mean, I've been doing everything in my power to increase fertility and chart, etc for 8 mos - all he has to do is have a little contrived sex. He ended up saying he was ready to go ahead and try, but for the first time in our 14 years together couldn't finish the deed.

Why couldn't he just play along and not talk about how contrived it is? Like I don't feel the same thing - come on! I guess my "bonus" is that my temp still didn't spike this morning, so maybe we get to force ourselves to have sex again tonight..... Ugh.

[Anonymous]

Hahha the story of my life...jk. But seriously, we just forget about our differences for a little bit and get it done. Really, that is the only way. It is not great sex, but it is what we need to do to reach our ultimate goal. So, just keep things light during that time and make up as quickly as possible. Good luck to you!

[Anonymous]

We've missed the magic window a few times over this. Luckily we've gotten a bit better about just pushing through even when irritated with each other.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Thanks everyone, it's good to hear others' stories, to commiserate/empathize. It's ironic, that we're currently on some holiday time, staying in a nice hotel (even has a jacuzzi in the room, which was unexpected). But again, when things get in the way of romance, it can be tough to just enjoy even the setting.

[Anonymous]

Some of my friends have not told their significant others when they are ovulating so there's not too much pressure on them... I am way too unable to keep my mouth shut for this to work personally, but it might be worth a shot!

[Anonymous]

The problem with keeping silent is that he's bound to figure it out after a few days of the deed. If you really are trying in earnest, I think he needs to be on board.

Case in point, I am the prior 43 y.o. poster with two losses this year. During the torture we went through at the end of June, I needed our agreement to be we do it to the nines or we don't do it at all. I actually came home from a business trip last night and jumped DH because I missed him. Then today, the CBEFM says "high". I decided to put it on the table this morning with DH. I didn't trick him into sex last night, but if I moved on him again tonight, I am sure he would have figured it out. He reaffirmed our agreement this morning. So, as exhausted as I am, we are scheduled for tonight. We don't have any time to lose.

[Anonymous]

I am the same way. I told my husband if he wants to have kids, he needs to put an extra effort into the process.

[Anonymous]

I also don't think I can keep silent (OP here) at "that time," but when those rough patches happen, it all feels in vain anyway. We returned from our trip, and the timing was lost. So, now, on to the next month.