Men, would you overlook qualities or personality traits you don't like in a woman if she was very attractive to you?
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Anonymous
| Wondering. I was hurt and cheated on by my last bf and he had told someone that he had stayed with me because of my looks which really hurt me. I was ride or die with him until he cheated. The relationship should have ended years before it did actually. I do like my personal space however and this bothered him. He wanted someone around him all the time. So now that I'm seeing/talking to someone new I worry about the same thing. |
Anonymous
| I met someone I really liked last summer, and we dated for 5 months. I like my personal space as well, but he would always ask me if I was talking and seeing other men during that time, which I was not. I am a very loyal and monogamist person. |
Anonymous
I currently have a hard time keeping up with the daily calls of the current guy I'm talking to. I sometimes feel like we run out of things to talk about. I just want some space to do something else than be attached to a man. My biological years are almost over so I think maybe I just do better alone. Not even sure now or maybe men exist who are loyal and want space themselves. |
Anonymous
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Op, we're you born yesterday?
Yes, men are swayed easily by looks. News at 11. Also, human beings like being powerful and important and admired. Also, the Pope is catholic. |
Anonymous
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Men are needier these days. I think it because they have fewer social outlets/friends.
Yes they seem to prioritize looks as number 1- that never changes. |
Anonymous
No need to be sarcastic/rude. I know looks are important but to the point of staying for years beyond the relationship being over? I need to find the SO attractive to but I definitely did not stay because he was attractive. I stayed because I loved him. There were more attractive men hitting on me when I was with him. |
Anonymous
Agree. Men are so needy nowadays unless they have kids already. Yes definitely fewer social outlets/friends. I guess I need to find one with various hobbies. |
Anonymous
| If you put out in the first month assume they only are there for your looks. |
Anonymous
So basically men your generation are superficial and insecure. You need to be admired for being supposedly powerful. And what’s up with referencing the pope? Weirdest comment so far. |
Anonymous
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Men often use the 20 rule:
body, face, + personality = at least 20 A 10 body and a 10 face will get you there |
Anonymous
First, someone who can't be apart from an SO is not a quality partner. Second, it seems, from your third sentence, that somewhere in your gut you figured out he wasn't quality a long time ago. So the fact that he said he stayed only because of your appearance is likely just one facet of why your ex is a waste of oxygen and space rather than a trait you should worry is common to all men. That said, the kind of men who would stay with people just because of appearance are either a holes like your ex or co-dependent losers (i.e. men who choose women with serious personality disorders such as BPD or who in at least major aspect are not an equal partner). So the key is to find someone who doesn't fit either category. |
Anonymous
| OP no cheater has an excuse, he isn't worth your time. That being said, if toddy's men are immature, so are today's women. |
Anonymous
Whatever, troll. |
Anonymous
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May be you only need a part time partner so find someone like yourself, most full time relationships demand more than you can give and that's absolutely okay.
When choosing a partner, think of COVID quarantine, if you can't do it with them, you aren't the right fit for each other. |
Anonymous
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Looks are the most important thing, OP.
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