How much do you "let go" in your relationship?

[Anonymous]

Thinking about relationships and "keeping the peace" I was wondering how much do you "let go" in your relationship? And if you have any examples to share.

[Anonymous]

Here's an example: I don't critique her spending. Whenever I get the urge to say something, I remind myself that no matter how much she spends, it's cheaper than a divorce.

[Anonymous]

We never ever critique HOW the other person does something. What does it matter if I fold laundry as I take it out of the dryer while he takes it all out and folds it from a basket while watching tv? It gets done and that's what counts.

We don't critique what the other gives the kids for their lunches. We only buy stuff we're okay with the kids eating, so it isn't a big deal if he was going to give them dried apricots Tuesday but I gave them Monday.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We never ever critique HOW the other person does something. What does it matter if I fold laundry as I take it out of the dryer while he takes it all out and folds it from a basket while watching tv? It gets done and that's what counts.

We don't critique what the other gives the kids for their lunches. We only buy stuff we're okay with the kids eating, so it isn't a big deal if he was going to give them dried apricots Tuesday but I gave them Monday.

That's true if it gets done that all that matters.

[Anonymous]

I don’t really do this but probably should

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t really do this but probably should

What do you mean?

[Anonymous]

You need to tolerate and then just accept that your partner won’t do things the same way as you do. Day to day most things aren’t very important so just learn to live with the differences.

[Anonymous]

How controlling am I?

Not very.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How controlling am I?

Not very.

Controlling? Not sure you understand the question posted.

[Anonymous]

I let go when it comes to politics. He's more conservative than I am and I try not to argue, even when the holes in his arguments might as well be craters on the moon.

[Anonymous]

My husband says incorrect information all the time. I'm just too darn tired to correct him or explain to him he's wrong. He acts like he knows it all but really doesn't. It's frustrating when he's so convinced he's right all the time.

[Anonymous]

A LOT!

The only reason for letting it go is that I cannot go inside his brain to make it work better. I've tried that, and it didn't work. The alternatives are divorce or letting go. So far, letting go is better. The calculus may change later on.

[Anonymous]

I just gave up…

[Anonymous]

I let go the fact she has a full bu$h. She let it grow over the years and that’s that… 🤷‍♂️

[Anonymous]

I let go her way all the time and yet she is unhappy and blames me. Some adult DW are just childish and are not able to take responsibilities for their own decisions and actions and have a knack for blaming DH. That has been my married life.