Men want/value wealthy wives, too

[Anonymous]

I know many couples where the wives have let themselves go or were not attractive to begin with. Their attractive, high-earning husbands stay loyal to them.

I can't help but think that if these women had not come from money, their husbands would find many issues to complain about and would divorce.

I have observed situations where young women from wealthy families find good husbands very early in life. The daughter of a family I know married a 23 year-old guy from Switzerland. The Swiss do not generally get married before the age of 30. It turns out, however, the bride had already assets worth 65m in her name, all from family.

By contrast, back when I was a poor girl in college, many guys who were otherwise attracted to me were not interested in a relationship and preferred girls from money.

[Anonymous]

That's the only way I'm getting married again. If she has money.

[Anonymous]

A woman's wealth never crossed my mind with one caveat. I was only interested in seriously dating women that were pursuing a college degree so I suppose that had a sorting factor in that there are fewer poor people in college. However, the reason for that requirement related to being employable in the future rather than any interest in her family's money. I have always been someone that earned my owned money and paid my own way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know many couples where the wives have let themselves go or were not attractive to begin with. Their attractive, high-earning husbands stay loyal to them.

I can't help but think that if these women had not come from money, their husbands would find many issues to complain about and would divorce.

I have observed situations where young women from wealthy families find good husbands very early in life. The daughter of a family I know married a 23 year-old guy from Switzerland. The Swiss do not generally get married before the age of 30. It turns out, however, the bride had already assets worth 65m in her name, all from family.

By contrast, back when I was a poor girl in college, many guys who were otherwise attracted to me were not interested in a relationship and preferred girls from money.

How much was the 23 year old guy from Switzerland worth? If he didn't have at least $65 mil in assets himself (or would inherit that for certain in the future)I would not say she married well.

[Anonymous]

There's more to being a good wife than looks or money. Neither of those can buy happiness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There's more to being a good wife than looks or money. Neither of those can buy happiness.

+1

Wealthy guy and didn’t care what my wife’s income or net worth was.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There's more to being a good wife than looks or money. Neither of those can buy happiness.

+1

Wealthy guy and didn’t care what my wife’s income or net worth was.

That is the best position to be in, but also very privileged to manage it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There's more to being a good wife than looks or money. Neither of those can buy happiness.

+1

Wealthy guy and didn’t care what my wife’s income or net worth was.

So you went for personality and looks? My ex ended up marrying an unemployed tubby who got pregnant a year after meeting him of which he tried to cheat on her with me. She knew and didn't care.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know many couples where the wives have let themselves go or were not attractive to begin with. Their attractive, high-earning husbands stay loyal to them.

I can't help but think that if these women had not come from money, their husbands would find many issues to complain about and would divorce.

I have observed situations where young women from wealthy families find good husbands very early in life. The daughter of a family I know married a 23 year-old guy from Switzerland. The Swiss do not generally get married before the age of 30. It turns out, however, the bride had already assets worth 65m in her name, all from family.

By contrast, back when I was a poor girl in college, many guys who were otherwise attracted to me were not interested in a relationship and preferred girls from money.

Weird post

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There's more to being a good wife than looks or money. Neither of those can buy happiness.

No, but it beats the alternative!

[Anonymous]

Money makes life easier, but it's also a form of power, and a large power imbalance is never good for a marriage

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know many couples where the wives have let themselves go or were not attractive to begin with. Their attractive, high-earning husbands stay loyal to them.

I can't help but think that if these women had not come from money, their husbands would find many issues to complain about and would divorce.

I have observed situations where young women from wealthy families find good husbands very early in life. The daughter of a family I know married a 23 year-old guy from Switzerland. The Swiss do not generally get married before the age of 30. It turns out, however, the bride had already assets worth 65m in her name, all from family.

By contrast, back when I was a poor girl in college, many guys who were otherwise attracted to me were not interested in a relationship and preferred girls from money.

How much was the 23 year old guy from Switzerland worth? If he didn't have at least $65 mil in assets himself (or would inherit that for certain in the future)I would not say she married well.

OP here. The Swiss guy didn't bring any assets into the marriage. They met when he was an intern at her dad's company. However, he is a kind, hardworking fellow. They are very happy. The girl's parents have embraced the son-in-law.

If the requirement had been for the guy to bring 65m into the marriage, the pool would be very limited.

[Anonymous]

The girls with money and very attractive smart women often get taken first. They are what you call marriage material. You can see a future with them.

I see men stay with wives who don’t come from money. Staying with an aging wife doesn’t necessarily have to do with wife’s money.

[Anonymous]

A date once explained it to me (he was mid 50s successful professional, not after women's money for sure). He said all his divorced friends want to meet independent, level headed woman who could be perfectly fine on her own, but at the same time chose HIM for love and companionship. Men want to feel loved and wanted, and not be chased for marriage or their money

[Anonymous]

When I met my wife she was broke and had a bunch of loans to pay off - but at the same time she had a master's degree in a good field. I helped pay off her loans and now she makes six figures. When we retire in 20 years or so we'll have plenty of savings. Her lack of money back then wasn't an issue for me because I could see the potential that she had.