DS's friends are bullying the new kid
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Anonymous
| 5th grade DS doesn't any have close friends, but he does have a small group he pals around with at school. Unfortunately these boys have started bullying a new student who's a bit different. The new kid worships the ground DS walks on. DS is indifferent toward him (to be fair, he's indifferent to pretty much everyone his age), but he's not sure how to navigate being in the middle. Any advice for him? |
Anonymous
| Is the school aware of the bullying? Is it happening at recess only, or at other times? Where is DS when it happens? |
Anonymous
They never bully this child when DS is around - so I don't know if the school is aware. The new kid tells DS what it happened once it's over, and he told us it feels strange to tell a teacher when he didn't witness it himself. |
Anonymous
| Tell DS to encourage the kid to tell a teacher. He can suggest a specific teacher if he wants, one who's kind and who he likes. It's fair DS doesn't want to provide heresay. |
Anonymous
| You need to let the teacher know about this. It’s not okay to let a kid be bullied if you know about it. The teacher won’t say who told. |
Anonymous
This. |
Anonymous
| Your kid is a follower straight up! |
Anonymous
This. Bullies can't get away with it if good people won't put up with it. Encourage your son to be a good person. |
Anonymous
OP, please ignore this comment. The fact that your child came to you to express his concerns about the situation and to ask what he should do, means that he is not a follower. I applaud you for reaching out for advice; and even more so, I applaud your kid for being aware that this is an awful situation and for asking an adult for advice on how to help change things. Fifth grade is not an easy time. your child obviously has empathy for this other child and is trying to figure out how to help them. |
Anonymous
| A follower is not exactly an insult but it’s not relevant to this. Can you invite the new kid to your house? |
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Please report to the teacher. Lead by example, this way if your child ever gets bullied in the future, he will know to not endure it and will have the courage to report. |
Anonymous
| Lead by examine |
Anonymous
| He should talk to his teacher. If he won't, you should, even if you don't reveal to DS that you have. The Teacher should know the social landscape and, if she's a decent teacher, she will have some strategies to make this better. |
Anonymous
| Teach your kid to stand up for other people? |