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Anonymous
| When you said to yourself my parents were right? What was it in reference to? |
Anonymous
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When my son was 2 wks old - They said "you can't do everything by the parenting book"
I was determined to breastfeed, but my son wouldn't calm down. He was screaming and had to be held at all times. My parents were trying to persuade me to supplement with formula, saying he was hungry. I kept saying no, my body knows supply & demand. When I finally gave in, my son stopped crying, the stress level in the house decreased and we were one happy family, sleepless, but happy. |
Anonymous
| Everything. I always knew I would want to be the mother that my mom is/was. I can only hope to be half the woman she is and I know my DH feels the same way about his mother. |
Anonymous
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Hasn't happened yet.
DS is 11 months. My favorite part of being a Mom is the ability to live by new rules. |
Anonymous
| My parents would always say, "just wait till you have kids!" boy did it resonate w/me when my Son was born. Quite literally as I cut his embilical cord, my parents words and the lifelong responsibility for his care came rushing to me. :0) |
Anonymous
I'm with you! I thought (still do) that my mom was a terrible mother! I realize that even more now that I have a daughter of my own. I don't think my parents will ever be right. |
Anonymous
I'm sorry to get off topic a bit, but could you describe your relationship (and mom) a bit. My dream is to have my kids feel this way about me! |
Anonymous
| I soon realized after having kids how my mom got such a short temper...it was US...we did it to her! hahaha |
Anonymous
It's funny that you ask because growing up we always felt that my mom was too strict; too involved etc but in retrospect I only see dedication. Her discipline turned us into people who are independent and self-reliant. Her sacrifice can be told in all our stories and the opportunities she worked so hard for us to have. She just keeps the family together without being "too much". I dont know how to describe it. And she wasn't even that nurturing. I hope to be a bit more nurturing. She didn't pat me on the back for just being me so in a sense, i lack that but in all other senses, I only see a woman who loved us, encouraged us and did everything in her power for us to have a rich childhood. My dad was there too but it's my mom who keeps us together. And for my DH, his parents are divorced so he was raised more or less by a single mom and i think he has nothing but respect for her. |
Anonymous
| When I was a kid/teenager/college student, I thought my mom was an insane worrier. Now that I have two young daughters, I think she probably had that right. |
Anonymous
| When I found myself almost saying, "I say no and give you time outs because I love you." |
Anonymous
when my daughter hit the terrible twos a few months ago, at about 18 months. holy cow. my parents used to tell me what a strong-willed, willful, stubborn kid I was. My dad recently spent time with my daughter and turned to me and said, "um, she's exactly like you were. welcome to OUR world." Apparently karma is, in fact, a bitch. 
I think my mom was a good mom but sometimes she made too big of a deal out of things that just weren't. I think I'm a little less structured, a little more chill than she was. Hopefully that will be good for something. |
Anonymous
| I don't think I realized they were "right," but I began to feel a lot less anger toward them, because I realized you have to shoot from the hip so much of the time as a parent. They were just doing their best. |
Anonymous
| Unfortunately my mother is mentally ill but i have really great neighbors who raised really great kids. They are very helpful. My son is 16weeks/4months. |
Anonymous
Sounds like my father growing up. He was very strict and involved with us growing up. I do not see it as being an issue of right or wrong, but I can definently understand in a way I could not before I was a parent why they made the choices they made in regards to raising me and my brother. I didn't like it at the time, but now that I am a parent I can appreciate it. We're a very close knit family even though we live far away from each. I talk to my dad everyday, my mom at least 3 times a week when she's off from work), and my brother about the same. |