Baptism gift??

[Anonymous]

I was invited to the baptism of my neighbor’s daughter who is around 16 years old. I was invited to both the mass at night at a church and the celebration the next day. Do I attend both? Do I bring a present? I don’t want to offend anyone so any help would be appreciated. TIA!

[Anonymous]

Attend whatever part you’re comfortable with. A gift is never necessary a card is really all you need. If you do a gift I’d keep it small, maybe something like this:

https://www.etsy.com/listing/1194477788/left-it-in-the-water-baptism-gifts-adult?click_key=39343af6c3971809bf62180e5a09e4914a476d6d%3A1194477788&click_sum=f560b1b7&ga_order=most_relevant&ga_search_type=all&ga_view_type=gallery&ga_search_query=baptism+gifts&ref=sr_gallery-2-12&sts=1&load_webview=1&bid=qAeQC61H84kAt1pGc6kO1BVnALhm

[Anonymous]

Just so you know the Saturday evening Mass is very long. Way longer than a normal Mass.

They may have invited you to that so it didn’t feel like a gift grab at the party. For a girl that age maybe a card with cash or a savings bond (do people still do that?). If you don’t know her well I’d be hesitant to do something like jewelry.

[Anonymous]

It’s like a wedding and a reception or a b’nai mitzvah and a party in that usually you try to attend the event if it’s possible. But if you can’t for some reason, people will understand.

It’s not like a wedding or mitzvah in that a gift is not needed, but if you are like me and doesn’t like to arrive empty handed, something small is fine.

[Anonymous]

A card with cash is traditional.