Loving multiple parents or children is fine, so why is loving multiple romantic partners so controversial?

[Anonymous]

The majority of people say that loving multiple romantic partners is deviant and immoral. More people probably do it than is commonly known, but even so, I assume from reactions here and from my own life experience that most people don't do it or are very ashamed when they do. But why?

[Anonymous]

Um I am definitely not having sex with my parents and children!!! Dear Lord.

[Anonymous]

Another troll post, this sub is overrun with them...

[Anonymous]

No one apart from a very few people will understand you, OP. I am one of them.

[Anonymous]

OP here. I'm not a troll. There have been times in my life when I've felt very close to more than one romantic partner at the same time. I also once had a partner who refused to be exclusive with me even though it seemed like we were in love with each other, and I was very upset with that person and broke it off, hurting the person. I wonder if that was a mistake on my part.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Another troll post, this sub is overrun with them...

I am not OP.

Can you please explain why you are calling OP a troll?

[Anonymous]

Most people do favor one parent or child though.

[Anonymous]

Forums are getting useless with constant trolling now.

[Anonymous]

I think most people have two or three true loves in life, if they are lucky. If you can do it all at once, I suppose there is nothing stopping you. Go for it and report back!

[Anonymous]

I mean... The obvious answer here is bc of the sex. I do think we are hardwired in some way to be repulsed when our sexual partner has multiple other partners. It's primally threatening (STDs, or the possibility of your partner having other children and dividing their resources from your offspring.)

Emotional connections are just completely different. We should all have many. They only enhance life.

[Anonymous]

(also feels weird to type that out since it seems obvious?)

[Anonymous]

Monogamy is largely a Christian thing. The Romans first imposed monogamy in their social construct so men wouldn’t be off looking for more wives and would be at home paying taxes and waiting for war. Christianity turned it into the moral issue it is today.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Monogamy is largely a Christian thing. The Romans first imposed monogamy in their social construct so men wouldn’t be off looking for more wives and would be at home paying taxes and waiting for war. Christianity turned it into the moral issue it is today.

Thank God for that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Monogamy is largely a Christian thing. The Romans first imposed monogamy in their social construct so men wouldn’t be off looking for more wives and would be at home paying taxes and waiting for war. Christianity turned it into the moral issue it is today.

Interesting

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Monogamy is largely a Christian thing. The Romans first imposed monogamy in their social construct so men wouldn’t be off looking for more wives and would be at home paying taxes and waiting for war. Christianity turned it into the moral issue it is today.

Sure.

I know so many couples at this point who tried "nonmonogamy" with their partners and even though they liked it in theory, as soon as their partners had sex with someone else, they couldn't stomach having sex with them anymore. It was chemical, it was a primal response to nonmonogamy.