Is he covering?

[Anonymous]

I need you to tell me if I’m reading into this too much.

DH has a female coworker who is pretty and charismatic, and the men gravitate towards her at every work event I’ve attended with DH. I once asked him about her, and he was adamant she’s “ok” in the looks department, not his type. And apparently she’s horrible at her job, or at least my DH thinks so. He comes home at least once a week talking about how messed this or that up, and how she can’t get fired because she’s so and so’s relative. But it’s like DH goes out of his way to tell me how much he hates having to work with her, how horrible she is at her job, etc.

Is he covering somehow because he actually likes her and knows he can’t have her?

[Anonymous]

Pass him a note before study hall. “Do you like soandso circle yes or no”

[Anonymous]

omg grow up
Either you trust him or not.
This is silly

[Anonymous]

No

[Anonymous]

No I don't think so.

[Anonymous]

No. She sounds difficult to work with and you made it obvious to him you were feeling jealous /insecure about her. So yeah, maybe he's going a little beyond to make sure you know she's not a threat at all, but I don't think he's covering. You however need to work on your issues.

[Anonymous]

Being married to someone like you must be exhausting.

[Anonymous]

OP—Does your DH ever say things like, "She is naughty," or "My coworker needs a spanking because she is a bad girl?" If not, then is likely just her work he cares about.

If so, there may be a problem (especially if she really is naughty.)

[Anonymous]

Why would you ask him about her? Did you expect him to say "yeah she's really hot and funny. I'm so glad she's on our team"? He's not an idiot

[Anonymous]

Cheaters are going to cheat …

[Anonymous]

It's because he knows you've noticed this woman and he wishes to alleviate your concerns. Of course he thinks she's pretty and charismatic! No, it doesn't mean he's cheating or wants to cheat! But he is trying to make you feel better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I need you to tell me if I’m reading into this too much.

DH has a female coworker who is pretty and charismatic, and the men gravitate towards her at every work event I’ve attended with DH. I once asked him about her, and he was adamant she’s “ok” in the looks department, not his type. And apparently she’s horrible at her job, or at least my DH thinks so. He comes home at least once a week talking about how messed this or that up, and how she can’t get fired because she’s so and so’s relative. But it’s like DH goes out of his way to tell me how much he hates having to work with her, how horrible she is at her job, etc.

Is he covering somehow because he actually likes her and knows he can’t have her?

Yes.

He's talking about her since she is on his mind.
Then he's probably saying the opposite of what he is feeling to cover up his real feelings.