OLD - which one

[Anonymous]

Divorcee who has never ever used OLD. I’m not looking for a deep dive, just any suggestions at all since this is a whole new world.

Successful professional, 40’s.

Which OLD services does the group use/recommend generally?

[Anonymous]

You’ll see the same people on all of them, but I like the Hinge filters the best.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Divorcee who has never ever used OLD. I’m not looking for a deep dive, just any suggestions at all since this is a whole new world.

Successful professional, 40’s.

Which OLD services does the group use/recommend generally?

What group?

[Anonymous]

I found the most people I liked on Hinge and Bumble. Match seems ok but less private. Tinder seemed full of fakes and was mostly horrible but I did meet a couple of very nice people there.

There are some smaller ones that might be useful. I met several great people on Elite Singles even though most people there were fakes or totally not appealing. Coffee Meets Bagel and the League give you options a few at a time and they both offered some people I liked.

[Anonymous]

I enjoyed Bumble.

[Anonymous]

Bumble and Hinge

[Anonymous]

Hinge is super user friendly but I had zero luck there. I would go with Bumble -- previous poster is right though, you will see the same people on all of them.

[Anonymous]

None of them. They're designed to keep you on there and gate keep the good matches for premium memberships.

And if you’re a woman, Godspeed. The options are AWFUL in DC.

[Anonymous]

Op here - thank you all! Very helpful.

[Anonymous]

One thing you won’t be able to miss: the algorithm spoonfeeds your feed the most popular profiles immediately when you join and then slowly ups the number of less popular profiles to your feed over the next couple of weeks.

[Anonymous]

Im in my 40s, new divorcee, on Tinder. I figured it was a good place to start.

[Anonymous]

I read that you should use what people in your area use for a bigger pool.

I tried out a bunch, one at a time. I met my current boyfriend on Bumble but he was on Bumble/Hinge/Tinder.

Tinder is definitely swipe free for all so harder to sort out the noise.

I liked Bumble best because I didn't want to be bombarded by messages from men. Bumble let me choose and message first.

[Anonymous]

I am a woman and I pay for a premium membership to tinder. The reason for this is bc it allows me to “hide” my profile from people unless I have liked them. So I don’t just show up in everyone and anyone’s stack of potential matches, Im only seen by people I like.

The reason I do this is twofold: first, if you are an attractive woman and you don’t do so, you will get overwhelmed with likes to sort through. Second, you are bound to see people you know: coworkers, neighbors, people you know socially, ex boyfriends, etc. This way, they don’t see me unless I like them. Thus avoiding potential awkwardness.

[Anonymous]

Bumble and Hinge, Hinge is better if you are using the free versions because you can see the people who like you for free but they are comparable if you pay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a woman and I pay for a premium membership to tinder. The reason for this is bc it allows me to “hide” my profile from people unless I have liked them. So I don’t just show up in everyone and anyone’s stack of potential matches, Im only seen by people I like.

The reason I do this is twofold: first, if you are an attractive woman and you don’t do so, you will get overwhelmed with likes to sort through. Second, you are bound to see people you know: coworkers, neighbors, people you know socially, ex boyfriends, etc. This way, they don’t see me unless I like them. Thus avoiding potential awkwardness.

This. I will add the same is true for men. They do not want to be seen as sniffing around, especially when they are 40+