What to wear to a friend’s child’s bar mitzvah?

[Anonymous]

Just to the synagogue? I have the nighttime party covered. Do I wear a color? Black? Cover shoulders? Are there rules? It’s a morning service.

[Anonymous]

Covered shoulders advisable. It it’s an orthodox congregation perhaps be particularly conservative. Otherwise - it’s a religious sabbath service. Dress as you would for a church. Dress, skirt, or nice slacks all fine. Any color you wish, but I’d avoid sparkles or sequins! (It’s a daytime service after all.)

[Anonymous]

The same thing you'd wear to a cousin's child's bar mitzvah. Of course you cover your shoulders and can wear color - it's not a funeral. You'll be in a temple. And of course it's a morning service - all bar and bat mitzvahs done in the United States are in the morning.

[Anonymous]

I’ve never been to a bar mitzvah, so I don’t know if there are customs that need to be followed.

[Anonymous]

Depends on what type of Judaism their synagogue is. (I assume conservative or reform).

Generally yes shoulders covered - so something with even a short sleeve is fine, or a cardigan over something sleeveless. Color doesn't matter. Women wearing pants is getting more common than before but some places skirts/dresses will be more common. Above the knee is fine, but not a mini skirt. Think about a business dinner - a sweater dress, a shift dress, a simple a-line.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The same thing you'd wear to a cousin's child's bar mitzvah. Of course you cover your shoulders and can wear color - it's not a funeral. You'll be in a temple. And of course it's a morning service - all bar and bat mitzvahs done in the United States are in the morning.

Stop with the "of course"es. She's asking because she doesn't know and that's ok.

And no not all mitzvahs in the US are in the morning.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Depends on what type of Judaism their synagogue is. (I assume conservative or reform).

Generally yes shoulders covered - so something with even a short sleeve is fine, or a cardigan over something sleeveless. Color doesn't matter. Women wearing pants is getting more common than before but some places skirts/dresses will be more common. Above the knee is fine, but not a mini skirt. Think about a business dinner - a sweater dress, a shift dress, a simple a-line.

Thank you.

[Anonymous]

My bat mitzah is in the evening

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The same thing you'd wear to a cousin's child's bar mitzvah. Of course you cover your shoulders and can wear color - it's not a funeral. You'll be in a temple. And of course it's a morning service - all bar and bat mitzvahs done in the United States are in the morning.

That's not true. My children have been invited to several in the late afternoon/early evening/Havdalah.

[Anonymous]

Elbow length sleeves or cardigan if you don't know if it's Reform, Conservative or Orthodox. Modest but chic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The same thing you'd wear to a cousin's child's bar mitzvah. Of course you cover your shoulders and can wear color - it's not a funeral. You'll be in a temple. And of course it's a morning service - all bar and bat mitzvahs done in the United States are in the morning.

No they are not
That’s ridiculous
Many students do Havdalah services . Especially if they are bat Mitzvahed by Chabad or a paid private rabbi .or reform dies this as well for some,

[Anonymous]

Something you would wear to church.