How do you exit after an overnight ?

[Anonymous]

He’s a really nice person, and I was attracted. But obvious ED issues and depression that became obvious after we had slept. I don’t want to hurt him more, as he had negative experiences with other women. But I just don’t have space in my life to deal with these issues.
How do you explain this to men you no longer want to see them after the first sex? I had very few partners and prior to that all my “sleepovers” went well and resulted in LTR. So not sure how to do this.
Any suggestions on the right wording ?

[Anonymous]

how did the depression issues become obvious after sex?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:how did the depression issues become obvious after sex?

Yes the prying minds of dcum want to know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:how did the depression issues become obvious after sex?

I can't describe it due to privacy concerns but lets say I just had a chance to spend more time in his environment

[Anonymous]

You just break up kindly.

[Anonymous]

Be clear. Don’t over explain. You are not his parent, therapist or even friend (unless you were before getting together). His reaction is not your issue.

“Dear John, thank you for spending time with me. I realize that I don’t see us working as romantic partners. I wish you the best.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Be clear. Don’t over explain. You are not his parent, therapist or even friend (unless you were before getting together). His reaction is not your issue.

“Dear John, thank you for spending time with me. I realize that I don’t see us working as romantic partners. I wish you the best.”

Pp again - he may or may not be hurt, but his emotions are his to sort out.

[Anonymous]

I exit quietly in bare feet.

[Anonymous]

If the depression issues are that obvious, tell him you're worried that he is not emotionally ready for a relationship. That will let him down easy without hurting his ego.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If the depression issues are that obvious, tell him you're worried that he is not emotionally ready for a relationship. That will let him down easy without hurting his ego.

That's a great idea, thank you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If the depression issues are that obvious, tell him you're worried that he is not emotionally ready for a relationship. That will let him down easy without hurting his ego.

That's a great idea, thank you!

I disagree — this makes it something he can argue with (“but I AM ready!!”). That can then build up resentment. Just make it about you, OP. There’s no wiggle room or gray area there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If the depression issues are that obvious, tell him you're worried that he is not emotionally ready for a relationship. That will let him down easy without hurting his ego.

That’s a terrible idea!

[Anonymous]

He has obvious ED issues this morning but performed last night? Those aren’t ED issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If the depression issues are that obvious, tell him you're worried that he is not emotionally ready for a relationship. That will let him down easy without hurting his ego.

That's a great idea, thank you!

I disagree — this makes it something he can argue with (“but I AM ready!!”). That can then build up resentment. Just make it about you, OP. There’s no wiggle room or gray area there.

OK, I'll probably say something along the lines that I have a challenging period in my life and cannot accommodate a relationship. Does it sound right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If the depression issues are that obvious, tell him you're worried that he is not emotionally ready for a relationship. That will let him down easy without hurting his ego.

That's a great idea, thank you!

I disagree — this makes it something he can argue with (“but I AM ready!!”). That can then build up resentment. Just make it about you, OP. There’s no wiggle room or gray area there.

OK, I'll probably say something along the lines that I have a challenging period in my life and cannot accommodate a relationship. Does it sound right?

Yes, that sounds better.