Late invite to birthday party

Anonymous
My DD’s 10th birthday is this weekend and I sent the invites out a few weeks ago. It includes a few girls in her class and a few others she is friends with at school who aren’t in her class.

DD came home from school today telling me that she has been hanging out with a girl at recess that she didn’t really know before and really likes, so she wants to invite her to her party now.

Is it weird to invite someone else at the last minute - don’t want her feelings to be hurt? And if I send the mom the evite should I also text her to say something about why I am inviting her DD last min? I have never met the mom if that matters - I could say something simple like DD told me she and Larla have become friendly and she would love her to attend her bday party this weekend. Or do I just send the evite and say nothing.
Anonymous
Either is fine!
Anonymous
Just send the Evite and ask DD to explain to her friend
Anonymous
I wouid text the mom because it is a bit late and the mom may have to rearrange her weekend to facilitate acceptance.

It's sweet to offer an invite in these circumstances but could look weird to the other mom. So, an explanation would be polite.
Anonymous
I would text the mom bc you never feel great if you get an evite and can tell everyone else replied weeks ago. It’s also short notice for her woman explanation would be welcome. I think it’s sweet of your daughter to want to invite her so I would text and then send the invite
Anonymous
Invite
Anonymous
Invite. No need to explain. Just do. They can decide what they want to do. We have always had positive turnout on these last minute invites. The kids are thrilled to get an invite.
Anonymous
I’d invite via email or text. Just a simple note with the date and time, and say you hope she can attend. If the parents ask the girl, presumably she will tell them the same thing your DD told you (that DD is a nice and brand new friend).
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:My DD’s 10th birthday is this weekend and I sent the invites out a few weeks ago. It includes a few girls in her class and a few others she is friends with at school who aren’t in her class.

DD came home from school today telling me that she has been hanging out with a girl at recess that she didn’t really know before and really likes, so she wants to invite her to her party now.

Is it weird to invite someone else at the last minute - don’t want her feelings to be hurt? And if I send the mom the evite should I also text her to say something about why I am inviting her DD last min? I have never met the mom if that matters - I could say something simple like DD told me she and Larla have become friendly and she would love her to attend her bday party this weekend. Or do I just send the evite and say nothing.


No it isn't.

Just send her an invite and say nothing.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:My DD’s 10th birthday is this weekend and I sent the invites out a few weeks ago. It includes a few girls in her class and a few others she is friends with at school who aren’t in her class.

DD came home from school today telling me that she has been hanging out with a girl at recess that she didn’t really know before and really likes, so she wants to invite her to her party now.

Is it weird to invite someone else at the last minute - don’t want her feelings to be hurt? And if I send the mom the evite should I also text her to say something about why I am inviting her DD last min? I have never met the mom if that matters - I could say something simple like DD told me she and Larla have become friendly and she would love her to attend her bday party this weekend. Or do I just send the evite and say nothing.


I would say something like this to avoid possibly hurting their feelings w/ a late invite. In fact, I've done this before in a similar situation. I said "DD told me she and Susie just became friends recently and DD would love to have Susie at her party this weekend! It's at Jump Zone in XYZ from 1-4 on Saturday, March 2. Here's a link to the evite: "
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I wouid text the mom because it is a bit late and the mom may have to rearrange her weekend to facilitate acceptance.

It's sweet to offer an invite in these circumstances but could look weird to the other mom. So, an explanation would be polite.


This is what I’d do.
Anonymous
This has happened to my kid - I appreciated the explanation and was happy the odd have recently gotten closer!
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My DD’s 10th birthday is this weekend and I sent the invites out a few weeks ago. It includes a few girls in her class and a few others she is friends with at school who aren’t in her class.

DD came home from school today telling me that she has been hanging out with a girl at recess that she didn’t really know before and really likes, so she wants to invite her to her party now.

Is it weird to invite someone else at the last minute - don’t want her feelings to be hurt? And if I send the mom the evite should I also text her to say something about why I am inviting her DD last min? I have never met the mom if that matters - I could say something simple like DD told me she and Larla have become friendly and she would love her to attend her bday party this weekend. Or do I just send the evite and say nothing.


I would say something like this to avoid possibly hurting their feelings w/ a late invite. In fact, I've done this before in a similar situation. I said "DD told me she and Susie just became friends recently and DD would love to have Susie at her party this weekend! It's at Jump Zone in XYZ from 1-4 on Saturday, March 2. Here's a link to the evite: "

This is perfect
Anonymous
Weird
Anonymous
Huh I would have said not to invite to the party but do a 1:1 playdate in the near future. But I’m clearly in the minority
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