Too many demands

[Anonymous]

I have too many demands around me, to the point I am resentful of it all. My in-laws, my parents, dh, my kids...It's all chores and obligations and no fun. By the time I am done with it all, there is nothing in life left for me. And that is with saying no plenty, just the minimum to satisfy the basic stuff.

[Anonymous]

I feel for you OP. Take care of yourself first so yo've your oxygen mask on. Take care of others too but don't overindulge or get guilt trapped. Delegate some responsibilities to others when fair and possible. Look at it as not only fulfilling obligations but volunteering and charity. They are related but still humans and you are serving humanity. You should be proud of yourself.

[Anonymous]

Unfortunately, that is the season of life you are in. It will get better when your kids are older and more independent. Hang in there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Unfortunately, that is the season of life you are in. It will get better when your kids are older and more independent. Hang in there.

I have teens and tbh it feels worse than ever. There is college looming, lots going on with them now, and in-laws and my parents are more demanding as well, plus work, the house...

[Anonymous]

Resentment creates a worse relationship with those around you than not doing it, whatever the it is. Make sure you are thinking of everyone around you as being as competent as you - competent enough

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have too many demands around me, to the point I am resentful of it all. My in-laws, my parents, dh, my kids...It's all chores and obligations and no fun. By the time I am done with it all, there is nothing in life left for me. And that is with saying no plenty, just the minimum to satisfy the basic stuff.

Yep . . . from another member of the "sandwich generation"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unfortunately, that is the season of life you are in. It will get better when your kids are older and more independent. Hang in there.

I have teens and tbh it feels worse than ever. There is college looming, lots going on with them now, and in-laws and my parents are more demanding as well, plus work, the house...

NP here. We are twins. I am drowning.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have too many demands around me, to the point I am resentful of it all. My in-laws, my parents, dh, my kids...It's all chores and obligations and no fun. By the time I am done with it all, there is nothing in life left for me. And that is with saying no plenty, just the minimum to satisfy the basic stuff.

Yep . . . from another member of the "sandwich generation"

And another, also some issues with my own health and anxiety about that…I’m trying hard to carve out moments of self care and I’m fortunate to have wonderful, great teens but there are some days I wake up thinking I just can’t wait to go to sleep that night because my day is just all drudgery - work, housework, admin tasks, dealing with ill parent.

[Anonymous]

op - i'm with you. i see very little to look forward to in life now between childcare, my own health issues, parents health issues and my job that I hate.

I can't figure out what the point is of all of it just to be so miserable.

[Anonymous]

I lost my mind and finally had to have strong boundaries. I am more willing to help those who are gracious and kind. If you are demanding and nasty, you can hire someone for the job. I dealt with disappointing others when I was doing backflips to please and I deal with disappointing others when I have boundaries. The difference is the boundaries allow me to maintain my sanity and make my family I created the number 1 priority.