Is something off?

[Anonymous]

Just got back from an international vacation with my boyfriend and his parents. On the way there, I was curious who was watching my boyfriends parents dogs so I asked his mom who was watching them, as I had made separate arrangements for my dog. She looked like a deer in headlights when I asked. She said a girls name and said it was someone my boyfriend had been close to years ago and then she ran off into the airport bathroom.

By her reaction, I already knew there was more to the story. After the vacation, I asked him about it finally and he told me it was his ex girlfriend. Is this weird that she stumbled so much in telling me or that he didn’t? His parents are staying abroad for longer than we are able so she is still staying at the parents house. His dad was borrowing his truck before the trip and after I went back home he was going to go over and switch out for his truck. And I’m assuming she’s there.

I don’t know if I’m reading into this too much or what but what do y’all think. Thanks.

[Anonymous]

Yes weird

[Anonymous]

Ewwwk yeah that’s odd

[Anonymous]

Who cares? He's not dating her now.

[Anonymous]

I think it’s weird

[Anonymous]

Try to put it out of your mind.

It has no bearing on your relationship.

[Anonymous]

It's weird.

[Anonymous]

Something’s off

[Anonymous]

Extremely weird. Red flags a flyin, OP

[Anonymous]

I'm on team "who cares?" Sometimes it's hard to find a good pet sitter so if you have someone you know well and can trust, I totally get it. Is your boyfriend really forbidden from catching a glimpse of his ex while he swaps cars? You have trust and jealousy issues.

[Anonymous]

Her reaction makes sense to me. She probably felt really uncomfortable. And maybe she had suggested he tell you and didn't know how to react when it was clear he didn't. I also get the value of having someone your pet knows and who you trust to take care of it. So I guess I get how that person could be your boyfriends ex.

How long have they been broken up and how long were they together? How did he react when he told you?

[Anonymous]

You either trust the guy or you leave.

[Anonymous]

Your BF has been above board & honest with you.

Wouldn’t bother me. People have histories. Go ahead and break up with him if that is an issue, but k doubt you’ll find anyone over 30 who doesn’t have an ex that is still in the friend group, works with a friend/relative etc. BFs mother was weird because she likes you & doesn’t want you to get weird about the fact that they still hire the ex. If she wanted you out or wanted to be malicious, you would’ve heard about ex’s magical dog whisperer skills long ago.

[Anonymous]

I watch my ex's dog when he travels because I love her and he's too cheap to board her when he knows I'll do it for free. OP- His mom is a different generation that might not be as comfortable with people being friendly with exes.

[Anonymous]

It would bother me but you are the one traveling with the boyfriend and his family, not the ex.

We don’t know the history. I know it is hard for people to find a trusted person to watch their pet, especially for a long period of time.

I have an ex whose mom was really good to me. I have no feelings for the ex. I would totally do a favor for her, the same way I would do a favor for my dad’s friend or my friend’s dad. I would not want to do a favor for my MIL and I am married to her son.