Men, how has having kids impacted your career?

[Anonymous]

This is other side of the coin for similar thread for women. We want to hear how kids impact professional lives of their fathers.

[Anonymous]

BWAHAHAHA!

Troll.

[Anonymous]

There is a German Saying “The Baby Brings the Bread”

In the 7 year period my wife had three kids my salary moved from 70k to 200k

A man needs a “rock on his bath” nothing like a pregnant wife, a mortgage to motivate.

I hit 340k by year ten after first born. I averaged $20k pay raises for 10 years.

Look at Elon Musk, Donald Trump, Nick Cannon, Alex Baldwin kids equal money.

[Anonymous]

Well let's see. In the last 6 years I had 2 HORRIBLE pregnancies (HG puking 10+ times per day, preeclampsia, and cholestasis aka incessant itching from inside my body), one resulted in a premie. I had 5 weeks off unpaid after my 1st and 6 weeks off unpaid after my 2nd. Nursed/pumped for 12-14 months each. My pay in that time period went from 78k to 96k and I still have 2 weeks vacation time and 5 sick days per year.

During the same time, DH has gone from 90k to 215k and went from 2 weeks PTO to 5 weeks vacation, 12 sick days.

[Anonymous]

oh geez

[Anonymous]

I do all of the sick days, school holidays, etc. so I need to be in a flexible job. I declined to pursue a manager role although honestly being a fed manager seems like it sucks anyways so I possibly would have made the same choice regardless.

The baby years were rough because I did all of the night time wake ups but I'm not sure how to quantify that impact on my work or not.

At the end of the day we have a nice house and enough money (me $190K + her $90K) that I guess it doesn't really matter at the end. I think she is missing out that she doesn't really volunteer at the school, I really enjoy getting to see how my kids interact with their friends in that environment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do all of the sick days, school holidays, etc. so I need to be in a flexible job. I declined to pursue a manager role although honestly being a fed manager seems like it sucks anyways so I possibly would have made the same choice regardless.

The baby years were rough because I did all of the night time wake ups but I'm not sure how to quantify that impact on my work or not.

At the end of the day we have a nice house and enough money (me $190K + her $90K) that I guess it doesn't really matter at the end. I think she is missing out that she doesn't really volunteer at the school, I really enjoy getting to see how my kids interact with their friends in that environment.

I’m similar. SME Fed refusing to take management roles.

I have looked at startups and some corporate roles, but honestly the money and stability were never enough to enable DW to quit outright, so we’re not feasible with 3 kids and 2 working parents. Without kids I know we would have worked at a variety of startups and probably lived in at least 3 other parts of the country based on the job offers I’ve had but turned down because I was wary of the impact on the family and the money wasn’t high enough to grease those skids (obv if I’m making $1M there would be options like two residences and flying back and forth, etc).

[Anonymous]

Since having kids my husband has increased his income by 60k and has been promoted twice. And he’s the default parent that does all the drop off and pick ups lol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is a German Saying “The Baby Brings the Bread”

In the 7 year period my wife had three kids my salary moved from 70k to 200k

A man needs a “rock on his bath” nothing like a pregnant wife, a mortgage to motivate.

I hit 340k by year ten after first born. I averaged $20k pay raises for 10 years.

Look at Elon Musk, Donald Trump, Nick Cannon, Alex Baldwin kids equal money.

I moved my ass from 90k to 230k after my kids, and I feel like a loser compared to my colleagues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is a German Saying “The Baby Brings the Bread”

In the 7 year period my wife had three kids my salary moved from 70k to 200k

A man needs a “rock on his bath” nothing like a pregnant wife, a mortgage to motivate.

I hit 340k by year ten after first born. I averaged $20k pay raises for 10 years.

Look at Elon Musk, Donald Trump, Nick Cannon, Alex Baldwin kids equal money.

I moved my ass from 90k to 230k after my kids, and I feel like a loser compared to my colleagues.

I’m a woman and my salary was similar before and after kids so I’m not sure his point

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is a German Saying “The Baby Brings the Bread”

In the 7 year period my wife had three kids my salary moved from 70k to 200k

A man needs a “rock on his bath” nothing like a pregnant wife, a mortgage to motivate.

I hit 340k by year ten after first born. I averaged $20k pay raises for 10 years.

Look at Elon Musk, Donald Trump, Nick Cannon, Alex Baldwin kids equal money.

I moved my ass from 90k to 230k after my kids, and I feel like a loser compared to my colleagues.

After? By the time the last kid is off to college people in DC are like 55-65

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is a German Saying “The Baby Brings the Bread”

In the 7 year period my wife had three kids my salary moved from 70k to 200k

A man needs a “rock on his bath” nothing like a pregnant wife, a mortgage to motivate.

I hit 340k by year ten after first born. I averaged $20k pay raises for 10 years.

Look at Elon Musk, Donald Trump, Nick Cannon, Alex Baldwin kids equal money.

I moved my ass from 90k to 230k after my kids, and I feel like a loser compared to my colleagues.

I’m a woman and my salary was similar before and after kids so I’m not sure his point

In some careers that’s a standard trajectory whether or not a person kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is a German Saying “The Baby Brings the Bread”

In the 7 year period my wife had three kids my salary moved from 70k to 200k

A man needs a “rock on his bath” nothing like a pregnant wife, a mortgage to motivate.

I hit 340k by year ten after first born. I averaged $20k pay raises for 10 years.

Look at Elon Musk, Donald Trump, Nick Cannon, Alex Baldwin kids equal money.

I moved my ass from 90k to 230k after my kids, and I feel like a loser compared to my colleagues.

After? By the time the last kid is off to college people in DC are like 55-65

Meaning after they are born.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is a German Saying “The Baby Brings the Bread”

In the 7 year period my wife had three kids my salary moved from 70k to 200k

A man needs a “rock on his bath” nothing like a pregnant wife, a mortgage to motivate.

I hit 340k by year ten after first born. I averaged $20k pay raises for 10 years.

Look at Elon Musk, Donald Trump, Nick Cannon, Alex Baldwin kids equal money.

I moved my ass from 90k to 230k after my kids, and I feel like a loser compared to my colleagues.

After? By the time the last kid is off to college people in DC are like 55-65

I will be 46 it’s not a problem!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is a German Saying “The Baby Brings the Bread”

In the 7 year period my wife had three kids my salary moved from 70k to 200k

A man needs a “rock on his bath” nothing like a pregnant wife, a mortgage to motivate.

I hit 340k by year ten after first born. I averaged $20k pay raises for 10 years.

Look at Elon Musk, Donald Trump, Nick Cannon, Alex Baldwin kids equal money.

I was following you until the last sentence. WTF- none of those psychopaths are motivated by their children.