Undecided wether to get a nose job for self confidence?

[Anonymous]

Eventually would like a boob job to fix my asymmetrical boobs and gain a cup size. I have a small nose IRL but in pictures it's weird. My face doesn't even look like the same face in different pictures. I sometimes look like different people in different pictures (lighting, place, etc). My face may look wide and fat (i'm thin) with beady eyes in one picture then in another it's slim and oval with my large eyes showing. Since I'm trying to actively date I feel weird about these pictures. My nose is small but it has a slight tiny bump one side. So a picture from one side makes it look small and upturned from the other it looks downturned. It sometimes looks like it has a slim tip but I don't like how bulgy the tip is or how wide it is. It's not very wide but I want a smaller width.

[Anonymous]

Good god

[Anonymous]

Remember the lesson of Jennifer Grey. Don't do the nose job--it might just make you forgettable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Eventually would like a boob job to fix my asymmetrical boobs and gain a cup size. I have a small nose IRL but in pictures it's weird. My face doesn't even look like the same face in different pictures. I sometimes look like different people in different pictures (lighting, place, etc). My face may look wide and fat (i'm thin) with beady eyes in one picture then in another it's slim and oval with my large eyes showing. Since I'm trying to actively date I feel weird about these pictures. My nose is small but it has a slight tiny bump one side. So a picture from one side makes it look small and upturned from the other it looks downturned. It sometimes looks like it has a slim tip but I don't like how bulgy the tip is or how wide it is. It's not very wide but I want a smaller width.

This sounds like body dysmorphia. Not a nose that needs correction.

[Anonymous]

Based on this overly analytical, detailed, and obsessive description, and the fact that you also want a boob job, I’d say no. Even if you’d look great after *just* those two procedures, there’s absolutely no way you’d stop there. Don’t blame a bump on your nose for your problems instead trying to face them head on. You’re doing yourself zero favors.

[Anonymous]

No. But i did once see a plastic surgeon say don’t mess with your nose, get a chin implant, since it usually creates the effect you’re actually going for without ruining your nose.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. But i did once see a plastic surgeon say don’t mess with your nose, get a chin implant, since it usually creates the effect you’re actually going for without ruining your nose.

My chin is small and symmetrical to my face. I don't have a large nose at all. It's small. I have never had any type of fillers or any surgery done in the past so these are small things that have been bothering me. I know the younger generations are more obsessed with their looks especially if they're on socials. This is nothing about dysmorphia. I think some tweaks here and there would make me FEEL more confident and happier.

[Anonymous]

I just had a friend with PERFECTLY FINE SKIN ruin it with some sort of light treatment. They burned her skin and she’s scarred for ever, for nothing.

Your nose is fine. Don’t make yourself look weird because you won’t see a psychiatrist and get to the root of the issue(s).

[Anonymous]

You sound like me in my 20s. I spent all my savings on the nose job and still didn't feel pretty...my chin is too big, my jawline is too sharp and masculine, my eyes are too small...and my nose job sort of grew back over the years. Cartilage does that.
Now late 30s and I realize I look great. The problems are in your head.

[Anonymous]

I got a nose job when I was 16. I clicked on the thread knowing I would likely say "yes, do it!"

BUT.... Everyone looks different in different pics and lighting. Everyone looks wider in some pics and slimmer in others. Even if you get it "fixed" you're still going to look different in different pics. My new nose isn't perfect in every picture. I can critique every picture I take thinking "my nose looks great but my teeth look weird" or whatever, but I cont keep finding things to "fix" just because a picture looks weird.

Step away from Instagram and tik tok. Stop worrying about pictures. Post pictures where your personality shines, and work on your self confidence. Your are more beautiful than you realize.

[Anonymous]

Edit your pictures, not your face.

[Anonymous]

My first thought: just how old is she?

If you are under 25: no nose job, just use photoshop for pictures like everyone else.

If you are older than 25: no nose job, no photoshop, therapy stat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just had a friend with PERFECTLY FINE SKIN ruin it with some sort of light treatment. They burned her skin and she’s scarred for ever, for nothing.

Your nose is fine. Don’t make yourself look weird because you won’t see a psychiatrist and get to the root of the issue(s).

Oh yeah. That always scared me. I have olive skin (Irish/Italian) that scars easily. I never did any lasers on my face and never will, 54 now. Retin-A for 30 years though.

I keep reading about microneedling. Very slight acne scar on one cheek, but my derm did mention risk of scarring. I will not due it because worry I'd end up like your friend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I got a nose job when I was 16. I clicked on the thread knowing I would likely say "yes, do it!"

BUT.... Everyone looks different in different pics and lighting. Everyone looks wider in some pics and slimmer in others. Even if you get it "fixed" you're still going to look different in different pics. My new nose isn't perfect in every picture. I can critique every picture I take thinking "my nose looks great but my teeth look weird" or whatever, but I cont keep finding things to "fix" just because a picture looks weird.

Step away from Instagram and tik tok. Stop worrying about pictures. Post pictures where your personality shines, and work on your self confidence. Your are more beautiful than you realize.

Same. I actually got a nose job when I was 18 and it made a dramatic difference in how my face looks. I started getting more compliments and attention from men as soon as I left the house. If there is a problem, plastic surgeons can sometimes fix things really well.

However, something about your post feels like your issues are more internal. You are obsessing and assuming that all your problems will be solved by this surgery. If feels like you will never actually be satisfied. What if you do these surgeries and your life doesn't change in any way?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My first thought: just how old is she?

If you are under 25: no nose job, just use photoshop for pictures like everyone else.

If you are older than 25: no nose job, no photoshop, therapy stat.

No need for therapy. If I was under 25 then yes I would need it because dysmorphia starts around that age.