Tips for making mom friends?

[Anonymous]

I have a few mom friends from all over the DMV but we are all about 40 minutes from each other. Our los are 8-13 months old.

Any tips on making more mom friends closer to me with a 13mo on two naps a day and 3 pt appointments a week?

I'm finding both my 13mo and I are both looking for the social interaction.

[Anonymous]

Look for a moms group near you.
I joined one when DD was 8 mos and she’s 11 now and I’m still friends with most of the moms.
We would meet for story time at the library, go for stroller walks, coffee etc….

[Anonymous]

Above PP again, also if you want social interaction look for little gym toddler classes, story times, music classes for toddlers etc.
That should be switching to one nap in a couple months so that will make get together as easier.

[Anonymous]

My ability to make mom friends skyrocketed when LO was old enough to play on her own even a little bit at a playground without constant assistance, so about 2 years old.

I have been both a SAHM and a working mom and found it much easier to make friends when working (in the office at least some of the time). A lot of my mom friends are either fellow daycare moms or women at work who are peers, who happen to be moms in a similar stage.

[Anonymous]

Go very consistently to certain places or activities at certain times. For example, a playground near a farmers market each week. You will see people who consistently have that routine too.

It'll be easier with less naps and better weather.

[Anonymous]

If you live in dc, check out Petworth peanuts. Tons of events!

[Anonymous]

My kids are older now and I don’t know how active moms groups are but I had joined a bunch when my kids were babies and toddlers. There is MOMS Club International by zip code. Our chapter was very active. I don’t think people use meetup anymore but there used to be some of various moms groups on there. I think I was part of 3 or 4 and there was an event everyday. I went to the ones that worked for my schedule. I remember there was one that was by year born and I was in one for each of my kids. It has been a decade and some of my closest friends are from those moms group days.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Go very consistently to certain places or activities at certain times. For example, a playground near a farmers market each week. You will see people who consistently have that routine too.

It'll be easier with less naps and better weather.

Maybe I don’t go consistently enough but I have never made a friend this way. I have met a few who I liked and thought we clicked and exchange info but they didn’t respond when I reached out. Or they reached out but they didn’t seem very interested in meeting.

The one time I met a mom at the playground, we did make a time to meet and I was half an hour late. I had a baby and toddler and one of them was still napping. I think she was mad I was late. She left shortly after I got there and we never tried to meet up again.

[Anonymous]

It’s totally great to find a mom group, etc. But I also caution you NOT to make that the sole focus of your friendships. Also be open to friending people in a book club of all marital statuses with or without kids (as an example). The closest friends I’ve made as adults are a woman who has never married or had kids and two women with kids much older than mine. One of our closest couple friends are grandparents of 4, while we still have a middle schooler.

You know who can make totally last minute plans and be flexible if you have a last minute glitch — the single woman, the empty nesters and the grandparents. Not the moms with one or two other small kids.

[Anonymous]

DS started preschool at 20 months and most of my mom friendships started there. Is there a part-time program you can enroll in, even if its only a few hours a week?

I also agree with mom groups. I joined PACE after my second was born and made friends that way.

[Anonymous]

You will meet other parents (I hate the term mom friend) through your child's daycare, preschool, and when they start school. If you don't have a job, then you can find your local MOMs group and start going to their events. Or through things like Kindermusik or other baby classes. Also go to the playground at the same time every day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Go very consistently to certain places or activities at certain times. For example, a playground near a farmers market each week. You will see people who consistently have that routine too.

It'll be easier with less naps and better weather.

Maybe I don’t go consistently enough but I have never made a friend this way. I have met a few who I liked and thought we clicked and exchange info but they didn’t respond when I reached out. Or they reached out but they didn’t seem very interested in meeting.

The one time I met a mom at the playground, we did make a time to meet and I was half an hour late. I had a baby and toddler and one of them was still napping. I think she was mad I was late. She left shortly after I got there and we never tried to meet up again.

I don't blame her. It's rude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s totally great to find a mom group, etc. But I also caution you NOT to make that the sole focus of your friendships. Also be open to friending people in a book club of all marital statuses with or without kids (as an example). The closest friends I’ve made as adults are a woman who has never married or had kids and two women with kids much older than mine. One of our closest couple friends are grandparents of 4, while we still have a middle schooler.

You know who can make totally last minute plans and be flexible if you have a last minute glitch — the single woman, the empty nesters and the grandparents. Not the moms with one or two other small kids.

I’m pp who said I made some of my closest friends when my kids were babies and toddlers. As our kids enter middle and high school, our kids are barely friends and it is getting busier and busier. I definitely still consider them my friends but it is harder to meet up and hang out since our friendships are no longer based on our kids and hanging out as entire families.

I would love to meet new single or childless people but I have 3 kids and in our forties. Everyone we know has kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Go very consistently to certain places or activities at certain times. For example, a playground near a farmers market each week. You will see people who consistently have that routine too.

It'll be easier with less naps and better weather.

Maybe I don’t go consistently enough but I have never made a friend this way. I have met a few who I liked and thought we clicked and exchange info but they didn’t respond when I reached out. Or they reached out but they didn’t seem very interested in meeting.

The one time I met a mom at the playground, we did make a time to meet and I was half an hour late. I had a baby and toddler and one of them was still napping. I think she was mad I was late. She left shortly after I got there and we never tried to meet up again.

I don't blame her. It's rude.

Do you have a baby and toddler? It isn’t so easy to get out the door when your kid is napping.

I can’t believe I am defending this. My youngest kid is 7 years old and haven’t dealt with this for years.