Elderly parents are “tribal”

[Anonymous]

Everyone they encounter of diverse background/immigrants they ask where they’re from and comment often about their nationality log after meeting them. “The Korean girl that works at the doctors office” and the “Filipino lady at the market” and the “Indian doctor that went to the best university”….most of these people are not first generation, but were born here. Parents are first and second generation of Western European descent. It borders on offensive and is definitely nosy at the very least. I tell them no one asks everyone anymore. I realize they grew up differently. Can u relate?

[Anonymous]

Yes. My mom still says Oriental, even though we have told her repeatedly not to.

[Anonymous]

They are elderly. Let it go. You aren't going to teach these old dogs new tricks.

[Anonymous]

It's even more hilarious when you're the child of a mixed-race marriage and your white elders do this. I was 12 when my grandmother told me sweetly to my face that different races should not intermarry. She also wrote tracts advocating for White Supremacy. She also had a lot of affection for my father and me, so I was really confused for a long time.

fUn tImEs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They are elderly. Let it go. You aren't going to teach these old dogs new tricks.

No doubt! Just asking if others can relate…

[Anonymous]

Are they from NY? I find that’s a more common world view there.

[Anonymous]

Find the thread "crazy s*** my mother said". For some reason they seem to become more racist as they get older. The filter goes and they become self-centered, like toddlers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are they from NY? I find that’s a more common world view there.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are they from NY? I find that’s a more common world view there.

NY state in general or NYC?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Find the thread "crazy s*** my mother said". For some reason they seem to become more racist as they get older. The filter goes and they become self-centered, like toddlers.

I can relate

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are they from NY? I find that’s a more common world view there.

NY state in general or NYC?

DP. The boroughs and Long Island. They ask "where you're from" or "what are you" and not just to dark people or people with accents. People identify as Italian, Greek, Irish, Polish, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They are elderly. Let it go. You aren't going to teach these old dogs new tricks.

How old are they OP? I no longer bother helpful my parents in social niceties. It's just too late.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes. My mom still says Oriental, even though we have told her repeatedly not to.

My mom too. And three of her five grandchildren are "half-Oriental".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are they from NY? I find that’s a more common world view there.

NY state in general or NYC?

DP. The boroughs and Long Island. They ask "where you're from" or "what are you" and not just to dark people or people with accents. People identify as Italian, Greek, Irish, Polish, etc.

Op here…They identify like that…and categorize others like that too…they grew up in Northeast cities and went to college in those cities …not NYC, but similar.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They are elderly. Let it go. You aren't going to teach these old dogs new tricks.

How old are they OP? I no longer bother helpful my parents in social niceties. It's just too late.

Yup…early 80s