Has MIL bugged our house?

[Anonymous]

This is going to sound insane so please don’t come at me! I think MIL has somehow bugged our house.

Yesterday evening I happened upon event advertised on Facebook that was in DH and DS shared wheelhouse. I mentioned it to DH and we decided we’d go today. We had existing plans to drop something off at MIL house tomorrow, and it’s out of the way. I casually complained that I wish we didn’t have to go to MIL tomorrow since it would be a time suck.

Fast forward to this morning, DH calls MIL to confirm the time we’d be there. He says NOTHING about our plans. It’s a cheerful, upbeat conversation. She agrees on the time and we go on with our day.

Just now she calls and he has it on speaker since we are getting ready, and she says don’t come, she would hate to upset anyone in our house about coming and ruining Saturday.

What? What just happened? Coincidence? A strange one, if so.

[Anonymous]

Is this you?

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1073617.page

[Anonymous]

ok.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like a garden variety guilt trip. She didn't mention your specific plans (and even if she had, possible that Facebook somehow showed that your DS and DH had liked or viewed the event).

If you are the type to complain that visiting your MIL to drop something off is a time suck, I am sure that she is well aware that you don't like her and intuits that you would think seeing her is a waste of weekend time and could mention this to guilt DH without having bugged you.

[Anonymous]

Group hysteria is real.
Fou a trois is a real phenomenon.
(Sorry I don’t have spell check).

Fascinating … Tell us more about your little community and what you are perceiving.

[Anonymous]

That is an incredibly wild leap.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like a garden variety guilt trip. She didn't mention your specific plans (and even if she had, possible that Facebook somehow showed that your DS and DH had liked or viewed the event).

If you are the type to complain that visiting your MIL to drop something off is a time suck, I am sure that she is well aware that you don't like her and intuits that you would think seeing her is a waste of weekend time and could mention this to guilt DH without having bugged you.

This.

[Anonymous]

Sometimes, actually, quite often, people don’t need to bug your house to know that you complain about them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes, actually, quite often, people don’t need to bug your house to know that you complain about them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is this you?

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1073617.page

My first thought too!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is this you?

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1073617.page

OMG—you are the best! As soon as I started reading this, I knew I had read this scenario before. 😂

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is this you?

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1073617.page

My first thought too!!

I recall a lengthy discussion about what IT skills would be needed to implement such bugs then everyone weighed in on how superior their 77 your old parents skills were that they could pull this off easily.

[Anonymous]

My MIL asks my kids things then asks me the same pretending she doesn’t know the answer already. If our answers dont match 100% (eg kids got details wrong) she accuses us in a very passive aggressive way of lying. That generation is just… stunted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes, actually, quite often, people don’t need to bug your house to know that you complain about them.

This. There are usually other signs.

[Anonymous]

So how are you treating your paranoia, OP?
This has been going on for quite some time now.