Outside opinions needed - I ask a question and fellow team member always verbally agrees with the other person

[Anonymous]

“I agree with John” - I am taking these comments negatively but am I simply too sensitive?

Example:

Me: Let’s keep the slide that is in for Carey. That way he will see it early since he wants to use the design for his presentation to our CEO Carl next week.

John: No, let’s see if he can use a day or two to update next week, the design is easy, he will be fine.

Jane: I agree with John.

This consistently happens over and over again. How should I take this?

[Anonymous]

I would take it as Jane agrees with John and is providing her input.

Should she not provide input?

[Anonymous]

This is normal but if it literally happens every time then you do have reason to feel that way.

[Anonymous]

Either your ideas aren't very good or John has more power in this dynamic and Jane wants to be on his good side.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Either your ideas aren't very good or John has more power in this dynamic and Jane wants to be on his good side.

This. Also, Jane does not sound like she has any original ideas of her own.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is normal but if it literally happens every time then you do have reason to feel that way.

Op here. It’s happening every time and she is assigned to be trained by me on this particular job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is normal but if it literally happens every time then you do have reason to feel that way.

Op here. It’s happening every time and she is assigned to be trained by me on this particular job.

Is John your boss?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is normal but if it literally happens every time then you do have reason to feel that way.

Op here. It’s happening every time and she is assigned to be trained by me on this particular job.

Does Jane not like you or something? Honest question. Do you have a positive working relationship with her?

[Anonymous]

Is there any reason for her to side with anyone? Does she ever offer her own input?
It sounds like Jane is sucking up to John for whatever reason.
-He has more power.
-She likes him.
-She doesn't like you.
-She sees a power dynamic between you and John and wants to be on the side of John.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is normal but if it literally happens every time then you do have reason to feel that way.

Op here. It’s happening every time and she is assigned to be trained by me on this particular job.

Is John your boss?

Not my boss and it varies by the person, its almost a guarantee she will disagree.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is there any reason for her to side with anyone? Does she ever offer her own input?
It sounds like Jane is sucking up to John for whatever reason.
-He has more power.
-She likes him.
-She doesn't like you.
-She sees a power dynamic between you and John and wants to be on the side of John.

This is what has me perplexed as well.

[Anonymous]

Next time before providing your own opinion ask Jane her opinion first and then John. See what happens.

[Anonymous]

She hates you.

I’m not being snarky, I literally think that is what it is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She hates you.

I’m not being snarky, I literally think that is what it is.

+1

It happens.