Will my ds become nicer as an adult?
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Anonymous
| My 16yo ds is so moody: a lot of mornings he is sulking, lost something, grumpy about something. He has chatty, sweet moments maybe 10% of the time, does tell us a lot about his life at dinner or randomly, but the rest of the time he mostly wants to be in his room or has a bad attitude and is silent. He has a very good social life, lots of friends through sports, school, works, good student, other parents really like him...But with us he is really tough, borderline rude, contrary, selfish, even worse with dh than with me. Is it still normal? Did your ds get any better? |
Anonymous
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He’s 16?
This is textbook behavior. Ask your DH. |
Anonymous
| Probably. |
Anonymous
| My DS was like that and only got worse. She is 19. I can only pray as she gets older and looks back on her behavior she is embarrassed |
Anonymous
| *DD |
Anonymous
| I think that some people don’t get better. Just read this board and you will know that many people grow up to be awful people. |
Anonymous
| Well, You have precisely described our 16 year old DS . We think his brain has more growing to do before we give up hope. |
Anonymous
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Yes, they do this. And, yes, it does get better.
Oh, the teenage years...shudder. |
Anonymous
| yes. They are internally programmed to begin rejecting you so they can leave the nest. Try not to take it personally, draw clear kind boundaries (it's OK to be angry but it's not ok to ....), and keep showing love and interest even when it is rejected. |
Anonymous
I feel bad for your kid with a parent like you. |
Anonymous
| Both of mine have become more kind and social with me and their dad. The teen years are hard. |
Anonymous
| Was he a nice child? |
Anonymous
| I doubt any of us hopes to be judged by our teenage behavior to our parents op. It’s very normal for an older adolescent to pull away from you. Give him space but enforce a level of respect and behavior boundaries. |
Anonymous
| Normal. My DS was a sweet kid, sulky/quiet teen, and now is a lovely 20 year old. |
Anonymous
Yes, very loving and sweet, loved hugs too. Now he basically recoils at the idea of a hug or emotional language. |