Breakfast Wars
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Anonymous
| Ran out of waffles this morning. Older DC snagged the last waffle, younger DC threw a fit. Offered younger DC eggs, bagels, toast, fruit, oatmeal etc. Nope only wanted a waffle. Now younger DC is screaming on the floor that they'll never eat again and how everything is stupid. Good times over here! Hope the day gets better from here on out. |
Anonymous
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Good luck for the rest of the day OP.
This is a good learning experience for younger DC. You can’t always get what you want. |
Anonymous
| Net eat again. LOL. Great for you, less cooking and will save on the grocery bill. Hang in there OP. |
Anonymous
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Lol, sorry OP. Hang in there.
When we're having a really rough morning I let DC watch videos of puppies on my phone at the table. Just an idea. |
Anonymous
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Acknowledge his disappointment and then move on. He can choose something else or wait till snack time.
Next time cut the one waffle in half... |
Anonymous
| That’s when my mom would’ve slapped the hysterical child. That would’ve been the end of that ridiculousness. |
Anonymous
| Hang in there. Younger child is learning, as is older child, but this will happen many times before it will have been fully learned. |
Anonymous
+1. Assuming this is not a toddler, just acknowledge the frustration and disappointment, but don't engage with the bargaining and offering new choices. Let him feel his feelings, then offer once he cools down. No point in negotiating while he's still hot. |
Anonymous
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Honestly this is good, everyone is winning. The younger DC is learning to process a minor disappointment. Just empathize with the emotion and hold firm on not allowing any expression of the disappointment that violates the kid’s responsibilities or anyone else’s “rights.”
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Anonymous
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It took me SO LONG to just have no reaction in this type of situation. I'm still not perfect, but getting much better.
In a calm, even tone, "I'm sorry we are out of waffles. I will put them on the shopping list. Would you like X, Y, or Z instead? No? Okay, its up to you." Then I might toss an extra something in the lunch box just in case. And move on. |
Anonymous
This is the best way to handle. Believe me, it's HARD in the moment when the child is screaming but eventually they will get it out of their system and move on. And if they eat nothing, it won't kill them. |
Anonymous
Damn, it's been 30 years and you still remember your mom slapping her children. That's not what I want for my children. |
Anonymous
| Op, you should not have felt like you needed to solve the problem. |
Anonymous
How young is this child? If older than Kindergarten, this behavior is ridiculous ...if not SN |
Anonymous
Agree with both PPs. It is hard in the moment, to 1) not lose your cool 2) not scramble to try to please them somehow But the reaction listed it the most effective IMO |