Sex talk resources

[Anonymous]

I need to have the sex talk with my 4th grader since we haven’t done it yet and are starting to get some questions.

Wondering if there are any reading materials that may be helpful to share with my DC - not a whole book, but a few pages with factual information to give an appropriate overview?

Thought that may be helpful and save a little embarrassment for DC. I would be there while they read and answer questions of course, but feel like I may stumble with exactly what to say, how much info to give and how to deliver it most appropriately.

[Anonymous]

I really loved Amy Lang at Birds + Bees and Kids. I bought the video series, which I liked because I could emulate her tone of voice. It had age-appropriate content in a very matter-of-fact style for every age. She has books and other resources too.

https://birdsandbeesandkids.com/

[Anonymous]

Get a book, let them read it in private, and when they are done, let them process it. Seriously, give them 48 hours and then ask if they have questions.

Do not sit there while they read.

[Anonymous]

The book It's Perfectly Normal is very good. I used it with all my kids. I gave it to them to read and then told them to write down any questions. I told them if they didn't feel comfortable asking the questions verbally, they could give me the paper and I would answer either verbally or in writing, whichever they picked.

I found that method to be very effective. Before long, each started to get more comfortable and made little comments while I was explaining things and asked follow-up questions on their own. Once you get that communication flowing, it's easy to keep it going and get them more comfortable with the topic and words.

[Anonymous]

-The care and keeping of you
- Robbie Harris book series (Its So Amazing, Ots Perfectly Normal)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The book It's Perfectly Normal is very good. I used it with all my kids. I gave it to them to read and then told them to write down any questions. I told them if they didn't feel comfortable asking the questions verbally, they could give me the paper and I would answer either verbally or in writing, whichever they picked.

I found that method to be very effective. Before long, each started to get more comfortable and made little comments while I was explaining things and asked follow-up questions on their own. Once you get that communication flowing, it's easy to keep it going and get them more comfortable with the topic and words.

Thanks, I checked out It’s Perfectly normal and was a bit concerned that it talks about things like sexual assault and HIV/AIDS. Wasn’t sure I need to provide that level of detail but assume it does it in a very age appropriate way?

[Anonymous]

Website: sex positive families

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The book It's Perfectly Normal is very good. I used it with all my kids. I gave it to them to read and then told them to write down any questions. I told them if they didn't feel comfortable asking the questions verbally, they could give me the paper and I would answer either verbally or in writing, whichever they picked.

I found that method to be very effective. Before long, each started to get more comfortable and made little comments while I was explaining things and asked follow-up questions on their own. Once you get that communication flowing, it's easy to keep it going and get them more comfortable with the topic and words.

Thanks, I checked out It’s Perfectly normal and was a bit concerned that it talks about things like sexual assault and HIV/AIDS. Wasn’t sure I need to provide that level of detail but assume it does it in a very age appropriate way?

of course you need to talk about sexually transmitted diseases, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The book It's Perfectly Normal is very good. I used it with all my kids. I gave it to them to read and then told them to write down any questions. I told them if they didn't feel comfortable asking the questions verbally, they could give me the paper and I would answer either verbally or in writing, whichever they picked.

I found that method to be very effective. Before long, each started to get more comfortable and made little comments while I was explaining things and asked follow-up questions on their own. Once you get that communication flowing, it's easy to keep it going and get them more comfortable with the topic and words.

Thanks, I checked out It’s Perfectly normal and was a bit concerned that it talks about things like sexual assault and HIV/AIDS. Wasn’t sure I need to provide that level of detail but assume it does it in a very age appropriate way?

Yes

You need to do this asap

[Anonymous]

I’ve used this video course, but their method is slow drips of age appropriate info beginning at a young age so not sure it’s totally applicable here. We’ve never explicitly explained s*x to our 8 and 5 y/o, but we’ve explained fertilization and how babies are born (and all of the proper terminology). But, this did totally change my mindset to being seen as knowledgeable and easy-breezy rather than the terrible messaging I received (you’re not old enough for that, shame, etc.).

https://birds-bees.com/

[Anonymous]

This is 13:11 again - one note about the embarrassment…that’s you projecting. Kids are just curious (at this young anyway). If you just answer questions or work in info when even half relevant, you create an atmosphere where it’s not embarrassing/awkward.

My kids will ask a question that *i* find awkward and embarrassing (I.e what’s a tampon for) and when I give them a satisfactory answer, their next question is what’s for dinner.

[Anonymous]

We got the middle age version of It's Perfectly Normal, It's So Amazing. We had a basic talk, then gave the book to our DC. Our DC didn't really read the book until 5th grade, but we had conversations before along the way as things popped up.

[Anonymous]

I found this resource: 5 online sessions for kids ages 9 - 12 to do with a parent. Organized by Stanford Children's Health (in California). I am planning to sign up with my boys. I think it will be a great way to have these important conversations.

https://www.stanfordchildrens.org/en/classes/community/pre-teen-teen-parent

[Anonymous]

Start by apologizing for waiting so long to talk about this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The book It's Perfectly Normal is very good. I used it with all my kids. I gave it to them to read and then told them to write down any questions. I told them if they didn't feel comfortable asking the questions verbally, they could give me the paper and I would answer either verbally or in writing, whichever they picked.

I found that method to be very effective. Before long, each started to get more comfortable and made little comments while I was explaining things and asked follow-up questions on their own. Once you get that communication flowing, it's easy to keep it going and get them more comfortable with the topic and words.

Thanks, I checked out It’s Perfectly normal and was a bit concerned that it talks about things like sexual assault and HIV/AIDS. Wasn’t sure I need to provide that level of detail but assume it does it in a very age appropriate way?

Yes

You need to do this asap

Do they NEED to know about sexually transmitted diseases at this stage? I think some of this overzealous approach lacks common sense and it may overwhelm kids.