How do I know if I’m a good cook?
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Anonymous
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I’ve only ever cooked for DH. IMO, I’ve gotten better/more creative in the kitchen since 2020, but I can’t get a read on DH.
He never compliments MY cooking to others per se, but he has mentioned recipes to others in conversation: “Emmy made a really delicious X the other night.” (I guess that’s a compliment by proxy?) Out of 365 dinners a year, I think he, to my face, compliments maybe 12. He rarely asks me to make something particular. He just eats whatever is in front of him. I myself can tell if something is awful, and I know when it tastes good to me. But I am adventurous and not picky, and more invested in the food since I spent the time planning and cooking it, so maybe my opinion is skewed? How do you know? |
Anonymous
| Cook for other people. |
Anonymous
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He literally DOES compliment your cooking to others if he says you made something he said was delicious. Are you not familiar with what an indirect compliment is?
Why not invite some friends over for dinner and serve them food? |
Anonymous
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He probably doesn't care about food much.
I could slave all day over the perfect Coq au Vin or something, and my DH would be like "It's fine." He would also like chicken fingers better. Like a pp said, cook for other people. |
Anonymous
| He does compliment your cooking, but it also doesn’t seem like he’s very picky lol. So he may not be the best judge of what’s good/not if he just eats whatever is out in front of him. |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
| I’m still stuck at the fact that you make 365 dinners a year. |
Anonymous
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He does compliment your cooking. But other ways
1. DH and DS will ask for specific meals of mine that they love. And we ask DH the same 2. Other people ask me specific things to make when we come over or host 3.i have a good palate and can tell if something is good or not I'm impressed you cook everyday so obviously you are doing something right! |
Anonymous
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You just know, I guess. My DH is not a gourmand, so he might be the same as your DH, but I just know if people like my cooking and I know if I made a good and tasty dish.
Give us some examples of what you cook. If you are trying to make panang curry and you never made it before, it is expected that first time might not turn out as great, it is a learning curve. |
Anonymous
This. You just know. |
Anonymous
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Do people eat the food/clean their plate? Ask for seconds? Sit at your table w/o complaint? Your cooking's good.
Not everyone is a foodgasm kind of person. Repeat customers means you're doing good business. |
Anonymous
| It is not normal to only cook for one person. Why don’t you ever invite people over? |
Anonymous
| I don't understand why this has to be a mystery. Can you not say to your DH, "How do you like my cooking? Do you think I'm a good cook?" |
Anonymous
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If you enjoy cooking, do it for that reason.
If you don't, don't. Your husband thinks your food is fine, and sometimes delicious. But he's clearly not that into food |
Anonymous
DH generally expresses appreciation that there is a homemade meal. He will generally say that he likes it. Sometimes I pepper with, "would you want it changed?" Sometimes he will weigh in and sometimes say, "no, good as is." But DH, as long as the food is within the margins that he eats, is not that picky. His palate isn't super cultivated. My kids are generally more honest with their takes on the meal. DS is particularly keen when it comes to food - he will eat bad food, but he loves good food. |