Likes for social media “models”
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Anonymous
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BF of 1.5 years (exclusive) likes IG posts of random, barely-clothed “models” in VERY sexual poses, mostly from behind. We’ve discussed marriage (will be 2nd marriages for both of us) and have known each other socially for 10+ years.
Currently, he only follows a few of these accounts himself but has at least 10 such accounts following him. He does not personally know any of the women IRL. Why even like such posts if you aren’t messaging them privately, right? It bothers me but not sure how/if to bring it up to him. Is this acceptable behavior these days when in a committed relationship? |
Anonymous
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They follow him back huh?
🤔 interesting |
Anonymous
| When my husband was doing this, it turned out he was private messaging and exchanging explicit photos and videos with several women. |
Anonymous
| People who want to excuse crappy behavior on the part of men will say it’s acceptable behavior. And there are a lot of people who say that. I would not be okay with it. |
Anonymous
A lot of IG models just follow whoever. I think it’s tacky for a guy to regularly like IG thirst traps but being mutual follows doesn’t mean anything. Which is a massive disappointment to a lot of men living in their parents’ basements. |
Anonymous
| Guy here and I don’t get guys that do this. It just weird especially when you are in a committed relationship. |
Anonymous
| Not ok. |
Anonymous
How did you find out? |
Anonymous
| He’s following them so they show up in his feed. This is no different from a guy looking at the SI swimsuit issue. Be glad he has a pulse and a sex drive. |
Anonymous
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OP here.
FWIW, I am not opposed to doing some legal sleuthing. Any recommendations? I can’t put my young kids (or myself) through another failed marriage/divorce. TIA |
Anonymous
Definitely glad. I’m with you 100% up until him actually liking their posts. That’s where he loses my trust. |
Anonymous
Not a great way to start a marriage. Why do you feel the need to get married? Do you want children with this person? |
Anonymous
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- Agreed, not ideal. However, neither is another divorce.
- I love him and want to move in together in the next 2 years or so. Not being married at that point is not an option I would consider. Plus, I miss the tax break.  (joking; kind of…)
- No and we’re on the same about not having kids together. |
Anonymous
| Didn't even bother reading passed 2nd marriage. Stop wasting your time, OP. He's a loser, you don't want that around your children. |
Anonymous
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This is bothering you. I would listen to that. You can love somebody and they may also not be the right one for you.
Parasocial relationships, not a great thing in any form. A pulse and a sex drive is not linked to this behavior. |