private home assisted living facilities

[Anonymous]

We have been touring some this weekend, and some of these places are so SCARY!!! They literally kick a resident out of the room so they can have a meeting with us--such an awful way to treat someone. And then some residents have the look on their faces like they are the characters in Get Out. Oh my. I need a drink.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, it is hard. I think it takes a lot of money for them to stand a chance of being nice. And it is just plain hard to care for an elderly person who isn't that mobile (forget the non-mobile!) and has to be toileted and bathed. Many die soon due to UTIs.

[Anonymous]

We have one that just set up down the street. They don’t allow visitors without a set appointment. Meaning they’ll always know when a loved one will be coming by. It’s a little terrifying for the loved one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have one that just set up down the street. They don’t allow visitors without a set appointment. Meaning they’ll always know when a loved one will be coming by. It’s a little terrifying for the loved one.

Yep, this. I wouldn't do private home unless I was desperate.

[Anonymous]

One we toured didn’t allow family visits during meal time? Are they that cheap that they don’t want to risk feeding others?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, it is hard. I think it takes a lot of money for them to stand a chance of being nice. And it is just plain hard to care for an elderly person who isn't that mobile (forget the non-mobile!) and has to be toileted and bathed. Many die soon due to UTIs.

Die too soon in general or in these private home ALF?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have one that just set up down the street. They don’t allow visitors without a set appointment. Meaning they’ll always know when a loved one will be coming by. It’s a little terrifying for the loved one.

This is against the law. I would call the State Elder Ombudsman office and tell them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have one that just set up down the street. They don’t allow visitors without a set appointment. Meaning they’ll always know when a loved one will be coming by. It’s a little terrifying for the loved one.

This is against the law. I would call the State Elder Ombudsman office and tell them.

Really?? Here’s what their website says: “to protect our residents, in-person meetings are by appointment only”. This is a company that bought a house in a very residential suburb (for cash) and turned it into a group home- they got licensed but didn’t follow any of the HOA rules about notifications.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One we toured didn’t allow family visits during meal time? Are they that cheap that they don’t want to risk feeding others?

Most places charge visitors for meals, I think (my mom's place does). The most benign explanation I can think of is that some residents don't eat well when they're distracted by company.

But other than that, I can't think of any good reasons not to allow visitors during meals.