Advice

[Anonymous]

Found my husband looking through dating sites. Should I confront him or keep quiet and collect evidence. Thinking of tracking his car as a first step.

[Anonymous]

You want to save your marriage?

Or get a payday in the divorce?

[Anonymous]

Save the marriage but I’m angry that he would be looking.

If I confront he just gets better at hiding it. Can you really stop someone from cheating?

[Anonymous]

No, you can’t stop them from cheating

[Anonymous]

Ask him about his intentions?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ask him about his intentions?

[Anonymous]

Are you going to let us help you create a fake profile so you can catch him in the act and out him on Cheaters?

[Anonymous]

And how did you discover this? Hijacking his computer? Nice! I’m sure plenty of people surf dating sites for fun but unless he’s paying for a site I wouldn’t worry about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And how did you discover this? Hijacking his computer? Nice! I’m sure plenty of people surf dating sites for fun but unless he’s paying for a site I wouldn’t worry about it.

That's absurd. Why would you scroll through pictures of available women "for fun" unless you intended to pursue something???

[Anonymous]

That’s right. It may be harmless today, but that’s because the opportunity hasn’t presented itself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ask him about his intentions?

He could be doing it out of curiosity or for research. No?

[Anonymous]

How badly do you want to know?

Here are some ideas:

- check his phone & email
- check the phone bill for numbers called and see if there’s anything suspicious
- track the car
- log into his google to see if there’s location history
- track the car
- check the credit card bills
- pull his credit report to see if he’s started any new cards
- search his files on his computer

I mean all things totally crazy, but when i did some/most of these things i found tons of evidence of an affair

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ask him about his intentions?

He could be doing it out of curiosity or for research. No?

LOLOLOL…ah yes, research.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And how did you discover this? Hijacking his computer? Nice! I’m sure plenty of people surf dating sites for fun but unless he’s paying for a site I wouldn’t worry about it.

I am single & even I do not surf dating sites.

If my S/O were doing so - I would take it that they were seriously considering cheating on me.

OP >> Definitely speak to your husband about this and see how he reacts.

He likely will deny it.
At least then you will know that you are married to a man w/little to zero integrity. 💔

[Anonymous]

They’re all behind paywalls, he’s not browsing through pictures of women unless he has a paid (or maybe trial) membership.

What exactly did you see?