kissing frequency and technique

[Anonymous]

After being married decades, I don't passionatly kiss my spouse frequently. After thinking about it, I I am interested to hear how often others make out? Back on topic, I cannot stand the way my spouse kisses. Not only is it uncomfortable, but I cannot wait for it to end. Years ago I would put in some effort so it was neutral, but now I am not sure what to do excecy avoid avoid the situation. I am afraid they are untrainable after all these years + stubborn + do not take hints or instruction / guidance well.

[Anonymous]

Have you tried to communicate? They might not be untrainable.

[Anonymous]

Kissing is something you vet up front. I just started seeing someone and can’t stop kissing him it is so perfect.

[Anonymous]

Tall to them about it and show them how you like it.

[Anonymous]

Kissing is hard. I never learned and nobody is willing to teach. I even asked in another anon forum and all I got was joke replies.

[Anonymous]

I always feel like I’m a terrible kisser. I love doing it, but feel like I suck. The funny thing is, DH initiates kissing quite often, so I must not be as bad as I imagine I am in my mind.

OP, to answer your question, DH and I make out randomly (think in the kitchen, the kind that doesn’t lead to sex) about 2-3 times a month, and we make out while having sex I’d say every 3rd time or so.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Kissing is hard. I never learned and nobody is willing to teach. I even asked in another anon forum and all I got was joke replies.

Aw, kissing is easy. Just taste first with your tongue, don’t put the whole thing in there; feel their lips with yours; if it’s right it’s easy.

[Anonymous]

We make out a lot. I find kissing a little invasive sometimes, like when we are in missionary (I'm on the bottom, looking up) I sometimes feel my space is being invaded. Lots of pressure and in-my-face-ness. When I'm on top (ie more in control of the kissing) it is more light kissing and playful rather than insistent and urgent. And when we are vertical I find that we have a good balance as well.

But sometimes ... right back to the very insistent kissing.

I mean, I don't hate it all the time but I don't like being suffoctaed, and sometimes there is just no ROOM.

[Anonymous]

I'm a guy, and I have found that in general, men like to go deeper and stronger and women like kissing more subtly. From a kissing standpoint, it seems like men were made for men and women for women. So in heterosexual relationships, there's got to be some give and take.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a guy, and I have found that in general, men like to go deeper and stronger and women like kissing more subtly. From a kissing standpoint, it seems like men were made for men and women for women. So in heterosexual relationships, there's got to be some give and take.

True but the sexiest thing ever is when men know this but wait for the woman to get there too.

[Anonymous]

Pretty frequent kitchen type kissing that is pretty innocent. Serious kissing during foreplay, think tongue to tongue. Not much kissing during intercourse given the positions we use but I’m so focused on the act that kissing isn’t needed. My kissing has definitely gotten more aggressive over the years as it really helps me get going.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a guy, and I have found that in general, men like to go deeper and stronger and women like kissing more subtly. From a kissing standpoint, it seems like men were made for men and women for women. So in heterosexual relationships, there's got to be some give and take.

True but the sexiest thing ever is when men know this but wait for the woman to get there too.

Why does it have to be that it's the woman who has to get there?

[Anonymous]

I hate to kiss.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kissing is hard. I never learned and nobody is willing to teach. I even asked in another anon forum and all I got was joke replies.

Aw, kissing is easy. Just taste first with your tongue, don’t put the whole thing in there; feel their lips with yours; if it’s right it’s easy.

NP. This is like explaining how to paint a Seurat. You can describe the technique, but being good takes a combination of innate skill, intuition, and lots of practice. I agree with the PP that this isn’t something people want to be practiced on.

[Anonymous]

We give each other lots of pecks throughout the day but rarely make out unless we're having sex. I'm the DW and I'm good with that. I adore my husband but I had a boyfriend when I was in college who was THE BEST kisser ever and made everyone I've kissed afterward (including DH) pale in comparison.