Brother's girlfriend didn't want to have thanksgiving with mother?

[Anonymous]

My brother's girlfriend whom he has a baby with (they got together months after he divorced my ex sis in law) told brother she didn't like how my mom looked her over and didn't want to spend thanksgiving together as planned. So I spent thanksgiving with my mom and brother went to spend it with his fiance and her family. I don't like how he lets himself be controlled by the women he's with. He lets them run the show. I am the sister btw. But I don't know how to tell him to let her know to be less sensitive. She talks to my mom when she's over but never mentioned that she was so bothered about the look over which my mom does to almost everyone she meets.

[Anonymous]

Um. Maybe you and your mom should be nice
R and more welcoming to her

[Anonymous]

Maybe your mom DID look her over and make a mean face. Maybe she also finds you bossy - I do.

[Anonymous]

OP here. To the ABOVE haters who didn't even bother to read. I didn't say I looked her over. I am very nice and my mother is very inviting and welcoming to her when she visits her house.

[Anonymous]

My mom is also in her 60's so whatever frown lines she has are already etched in. With this chick being in her 20's I think she could be immature. Brother met her at a club. Yes he is immature as well.

[Anonymous]

Ugh sorry but you both sound horrible. Team girlfriend.

[Anonymous]

To add, my mother also had a stroke and has been in recovery since last summer. This chick could have at least been more sympathetic and let any bygones be bygones if she actually was looked at. My mother denies it and said she hasn't looked over this girl or been mean to her. I believe my mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ugh sorry but you both sound horrible. Team girlfriend.

Excuse me, how do I sound horrible? what did I say that sounded horrible?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ugh sorry but you both sound horrible. Team girlfriend.

Excuse me, how do I sound horrible? what did I say that sounded horrible?

Calling her a "chick" does not sound kind.

Your brother sounds like a dumpster fire. He has attracted the kind of woman that such men attract. I guess more drama is going to happen in his life. He will probably end up becoming poor and paying for alimony and child support. My advice is one of tough love. Be in your brother's life but do not allow him to live with your mom or you, or lend him money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ugh sorry but you both sound horrible. Team girlfriend.

Excuse me, how do I sound horrible? what did I say that sounded horrible?

Calling her a "chick" does not sound kind.

Your brother sounds like a dumpster fire. He has attracted the kind of woman that such men attract. I guess more drama is going to happen in his life. He will probably end up becoming poor and paying for alimony and child support. My advice is one of tough love. Be in your brother's life but do not allow him to live with your mom or you, or lend him money.

Him and his first wife were actually high school sweethearts. He might have made a mistake but he was truly in love and might still be in love with the first wife. Though they have a child together too the ex wife caved in to her materialism/culture/family demands and chose a much wealthier man after brother. I think it's incredibly unkind to call someone you don't know a 'dumpster fire' based off one choice of woman. I also believe this lady's culture has a lot to do with her personality. We're not white btw but brother picks women from certain cultures where it can be prohibited or seen as bad to marry from a different culture. Yes it brings problems and issues.

[Anonymous]

Seeing as how many DILs here end up mostly unable to tolerate their MILs it sounds like your brother's GF is just getting an early start on that. It could also be that she's just really smart and is already trying to figure out a way to extricate herself from this lifetime of marriage hell before it even happens. Maybe more young ladies ought to size up their future MILs before letting a relationship get serious, that way they would avoid a lot of conflict.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ugh sorry but you both sound horrible. Team girlfriend.

Excuse me, how do I sound horrible? what did I say that sounded horrible?

That you want to tell him how to behave (not your place to dictate) and then for him to tell her how to behave (not your place, once removed!) You’re not in charge of other people and their emotions. The one your mom should be looking over is her son! He’s a big boy tied to two baby mamas already.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To add, my mother also had a stroke and has been in recovery since last summer. This chick could have at least been more sympathetic and let any bygones be bygones if she actually was looked at. My mother denies it and said she hasn't looked over this girl or been mean to her. I believe my mom.

You mean she didn’t do the look over that she does to almost everyone she meets? So GF is a lucky one who your mom claims got skipped over? I think you must be a troll and not a good one. It’s hard to imagine someone could be so self absorbed as to believe they have any say in a sibling’s relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ugh sorry but you both sound horrible. Team girlfriend.

Excuse me, how do I sound horrible? what did I say that sounded horrible?

That you want to tell him how to behave (not your place to dictate) and then for him to tell her how to behave (not your place, once removed!) You’re not in charge of other people and their emotions. The one your mom should be looking over is her son! He’s a big boy tied to two baby mamas already.

Excuse me it's not baby mamas. One was his wife where there was true love. They married despite countering and stalking relatives from her side who didn't want an intercultural marriage.

The second is the fiance. Got damn are y'all so rude!!!

[Anonymous]

Team girlfriend