Not physically attracted to my husband anymore.

[Anonymous]

I feel like it’s been a slow burn for a while but now it’s just totally gone. I have tried to will myself to be attracted to him but I just can’t. I love him so much but just not attracted to him anymore. I’m not sure how to handle this. We have been together a very long time. I have always been of the belief that being physically attracted to each other was extremely important. And that’s just gone for me.

[Anonymous]

Has he changed a lot, or is it a mental thing on your end?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Has he changed a lot, or is it a mental thing on your end?

It’s both.

[Anonymous]

I can relate. It much you can do.

[Anonymous]

Not much you can do

[Anonymous]

The guy you're thinking of having an affair with will become less attractive too don't blow up your life

[Anonymous]

You're not as hot as you once were either, OP. So keep that in mind.

[Anonymous]

You are not alone OP.

99% of married women eventually feel this way about their husbands.

[Anonymous]

Marriage over. It's good that you love him so much, you can be good friends and if there are kids you can be good co-parents.

[Anonymous]

I can relate too. I have chosen to go into therapy, talk through some of my feelings honestly with my spouse, and we are going to try sex therapy. I don’t know how it will turn out quite honestly.

You have to figure out how pivotal this is in your relationship along with everything else. What are you willing to live with and/or sacrifice? The answer is not the same for everyone.

[Anonymous]

Move to a new city, state or country to reset your lives. Join gyms, get makeovers, try therapy, get hormones checked. All less complicated, less traumatic and less expensive than divorce.

[Anonymous]

It's the beginning of the end. Sadly.
Do it now or do it later and waste both of your and DH's time.

[Anonymous]

These replies are ridiculous. Everyone grows old. You can’t expect to be extremely physically attracted to someone forever (in my opinion). I don’t really know what you’re supposed to about sex though.

[Anonymous]

Read spicy stuff, fantasize, it will help for a bit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel like it’s been a slow burn for a while but now it’s just totally gone. I have tried to will myself to be attracted to him but I just can’t. I love him so much but just not attracted to him anymore. I’m not sure how to handle this. We have been together a very long time. I have always been of the belief that being physically attracted to each other was extremely important. And that’s just gone for me.

What exactly is the problem you’re feeling? That you want to be physically attracted to him but aren’t? Or that you want to have a healthy sexual relationship but can’t bring yourself to do it? Or that you want him to have a happy marriage with him without a sexual component?

If it’s the first thing, there may not be much you can do, but is there something he could change to suit you? If it’s the second thing, then yeah therapy sounds necessary. If it’s the third thing, be honest with your DH and help him find a FWB that you can trust him with.