Rejecting admission

[Anonymous]

Hypothetically, if you are accepted into a private school but you decide to go with a different option, does that preclude your family from applying in a different year later on?

[Anonymous]

I don’t think so, but you might want to explain why you rejected their offer earlier.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think so, but you might want to explain why you rejected their offer earlier.

+1

[Anonymous]

I don’t think it would rule you out, but at the most competitive schools it might be a mark against you if it makes the school question whether you might do the same thing again.

[Anonymous]

If applying for the same child at same school - I wouldn't recommend. If you are on the fence about applying now - wait until you really want to attend.

If applying for a sibling later, make sure they know each child is different and the match/choice for each child will be child-specific. The school needs to know that that the younger sibling won't just automatically say YES to their older sibling's choice.

[Anonymous]

I think it would definitely be a mark against you if applying for 9th. Earlier years, less of an issue; kids change and what’s perhaps not the right fit for K or 6th may be perfect at 9th.

[Anonymous]

I do not think so. DS got rejected from School 1 and went to School 2 for only Freshman and Sophomore years. DD 4 yrs behind DS was accepted to both schools. So I think they know each child is different.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do not think so. DS got rejected from School 1 and went to School 2 for only Freshman and Sophomore years. DD 4 yrs behind DS was accepted to both schools. So I think they know each child is different.

In your case you never reapplied the same kid after rejecting an offer admission.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I do not think so. DS got rejected from School 1 and went to School 2 for only Freshman and Sophomore years. DD 4 yrs behind DS was accepted to both schools. So I think they know each child is different.

In your case you never reapplied the same kid after rejecting an offer admission.

OP said “family” which suggests a different kid, not the same one.

[Anonymous]

Based on the past experience with your family and that you selected another school previously, the school might view your application and interest in their school as less sincere.

They could easily say to themselves, “Why go through the bother of evaluating and offering admittance to this candidate since it’s already been established that the family prefers another school(s)?”

They might skip over your DC based on this and offer someone else from the pool of applicants that didn’t have this particular piece of baggage. Schools prefer to offer spots to those with high probability of accepting.

[Anonymous]

I think you have to be upfront and provide a clear compelling reason you declined in the past.

[Anonymous]

They won't care...look, the reality is that NONE of these schools are struggling with enrollment so they won't take your rejection personally. They'll wish you well and go to their waitlist.

If it makes you feel better, then let them know that it wasn't an easy decision and you may opt to re-apply in the future if it doesn't work out at the school you chose.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hypothetically, if you are accepted into a private school but you decide to go with a different option, does that preclude your family from applying in a different year later on?

No, it does not if you have good manners and handle yourself well. Take care to build relationships and not burn bridges. YoThe schools know you are applying around. They expect many awesome families to fall out of the process.