Thoughts on regularly getting flowers from significant other
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Anonymous
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Friend of mine send flowers to his GF all the time. I personally think flowers are overrated, kind of lazy, requires no thought, or effort. I’d much rather show my appreciation for someone by getting them something thoughtful, or doing something for them that takes effort like a homemade gift. I still get my GF flowers occasionally but not all the time. Just seems a little cliche. I’m constantly doing, showing, and saying how much I care for her in ways that take way more effort than picking up flowers but maybe I’m misjudging the flower power.
Thoughts on getting flowers often (like weekly or monthly). Like it? Meh? Waste of money? |
Anonymous
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I used to think flowers were a waste of money, told DH this, and would get aggravated when he bought them anyway after I told him I don’t like them. It’s like he couldn’t fathom that I didn’t want them.
Now, years later, I don’t mind. They make the room more cheerful. I still prefer potted plants though. |
Anonymous
| I agree with you but every woman is different. |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
| If you’re doing it for her doesn’t it matter more what she thinks? |
Anonymous
As the gift-giver, that's not really your call to make. I like receiving flowers (assuming I'm not dumped with the burden of cutting them, finding a vase for them, etc). They don't make me feel "appreciated," it's just a nice gesture. I actually do think they are thoughtful; even though it's kind of silly I like the idea of my husband checking out flower selection when he goes to costco and finding some he knows I'll like. It does seem like flowers just sweep some women off their feet (although maybe that's just in the movies) and I personally don't feel that way. And flowers would never replace giving me hugs, saying I love you, truly listening to me, etc. If DH never gave me flowers except on the occasions I ask (I ask for them on mother's day because I believe in telling DH and the kids exactly what I want), I wouldn't care. I think your actions are fine, OP. |
Anonymous
| Waste.... I hate flowers |
Anonymous
| It's a bad gift if she has a cat. The cat will eat the flowers or knock the vase over. It's how they roll. |
Anonymous
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After 15 years I finally told my DH i want them less often.
We have deeper financial goals. I appreciate them, I like flowers around. But I also don’t need them often. |
Anonymous
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OP - what other gifts do you give her ? Just sounds like you are just a verbal supporter/cheering her and kind of cheap. Do you take her out to nice dates or just crash at her place for sex ?
Personally, to me flowers are very meaningful. I had a suitor who would make a different bouquet himself each time and it was incredibly romantic. It doesn’t cost much either |
Anonymous
| Flowers signify a romantic relationship. If a man never gives them it’s a sex buddy |
Anonymous
| Seems like you are comparing yourself with your friend. Why? He knows his gf better than you, maybe she told him she likes flowers. You said you think flowers are overrated but how does your gf feel? |
Anonymous
+1. |
Anonymous
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My husband gets me a bouquet from the grocery store about 10 times a year (so slightly less than monthly).
I love it. They aren’t super expensive ($12 or $15 each) and it isn’t always on a holiday or occasion so it always feels like a surprise. He knows I love having a vase of flowers on the kitchen table. |
Anonymous
Same…it’s nice. He just gets them at Trader Joe’s. If he’s traveling on a special occasion day, he might get something nicer delivered. |