When you're not getting pregnant, why?

[Anonymous]

Curious about something (after TTC a few months)....

If both partners have conceieved before (and on the first month of trying, FWIW), and you're having sex at least every third day -- and every day in the "fertile" time, and charting indicates ovulation IS occurring, but you are not getting pregnant, what do you think is going on? Bad eggs?

[Anonymous]

It could be a million things - or what they like to call "unexplained infertility." What is a few months? How old are you? If you're worried go see your doctor.

[Anonymous]

Could be multiple reasons, but I would look into sperm first. Less invasive and cheaper to check. We've tried different timing of sex during 3 years of TTC (every day, every other day during the fertile window). Then I went to a doctor and had all kinds of tests done. Turns out I am fine, but my husband's sperm is the problem. Even if your husband fathered children before, his sperm can deteriorate. That is not to say that there's no problem with you. I would first eliminate the male factor before you proceed with checking things out with you.

[Anonymous]

How old are you? That's a huge factor, especially with egg quality. Sometimes it takes many well-timed tries to get a good egg, especially as you move into your late 30s.

FWIW, our RE reminded us that even perfectly healthy couples without any real reproductive challenges have something like a 1/10 chance of getting pregnant on any given month with well-timed sex. Do the math -- it can take awhile.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Could be multiple reasons, but I would look into sperm first. Less invasive and cheaper to check. We've tried different timing of sex during 3 years of TTC (every day, every other day during the fertile window). Then I went to a doctor and had all kinds of tests done. Turns out I am fine, but my husband's sperm is the problem. Even if your husband fathered children before, his sperm can deteriorate. That is not to say that there's no problem with you. I would first eliminate the male factor before you proceed with checking things out with you.

I agree. If you feel the need to start investigating what might be wrong, start with a sperm analysis. Easy and inexpensive to test. Next step is blood work for you. After that, the RE can guide you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How old are you? That's a huge factor, especially with egg quality. Sometimes it takes many well-timed tries to get a good egg, especially as you move into your late 30s.

FWIW, our RE reminded us that even perfectly healthy couples without any real reproductive challenges have something like a 1/10 chance of getting pregnant on any given month with well-timed sex. Do the math -- it can take awhile.

That's what I'm so curious about. If a couple has no challenges and the sperm is meeting the egg why only a 10% chance of it taking?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How old are you? That's a huge factor, especially with egg quality. Sometimes it takes many well-timed tries to get a good egg, especially as you move into your late 30s.

FWIW, our RE reminded us that even perfectly healthy couples without any real reproductive challenges have something like a 1/10 chance of getting pregnant on any given month with well-timed sex. Do the math -- it can take awhile.

That's what I'm so curious about. If a couple has no challenges and the sperm is meeting the egg why only a 10% chance of it taking?

There is no guarantee that the sperm and egg are actually meeting, even in perfectly healthy couples. Think two ships passing in the night...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How old are you? That's a huge factor, especially with egg quality. Sometimes it takes many well-timed tries to get a good egg, especially as you move into your late 30s.

FWIW, our RE reminded us that even perfectly healthy couples without any real reproductive challenges have something like a 1/10 chance of getting pregnant on any given month with well-timed sex. Do the math -- it can take awhile.

That's what I'm so curious about. If a couple has no challenges and the sperm is meeting the egg why only a 10% chance of it taking?

There is no guarantee that the sperm and egg are actually meeting, even in perfectly healthy couples. Think two ships passing in the night...

And any number of things can go wrong, even if they do meet. Things like the sperm not quite penetrating the shell of the egg, or the cells not dividing quite properly in the early days, or the fertilized egg settling in a less-than-ideal place in the uterus, or the hormones being slightly off after it implants etc.