Friend zoning on good terms

[Anonymous]

Met a really nice guy on OLD and he invited me for an expensive event for date 2 (in 2 weeks from date 1). We had a nice time and conversation, have same lifestyle, taste and work in the same field.

I felt obligated to invite him back and got tickets for another event for date 3 (again, in 2 weeks). Both are busy with kids, and he did mention "interviewing" women on OLD. I have a rather permanent, younger and very handsome FWB - exclusive sexually but otherwise we go out separately and still on OLD. He's not a LTR material for a number of reasons but meets my needs in other areas and sometimes gives flowers. I basically just surf the web looking for long term match but not actively doing dates, only if something really catches my attention (this OLD guy is very sharp and is interesting intellectually)

But I'm not interested sexually in the "new" guy as potential BF and he might be on the same page. He is an executive in a organization which is my company's client. I don't mind maintaining a friendly connection just not dating after this date 3 but I need some script to let him know it won't be sexual without offending him.

Any suggestions?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Met a really nice guy on OLD and he invited me for an expensive event for date 2 (in 2 weeks from date 1). We had a nice time and conversation, have same lifestyle, taste and work in the same field.

I felt obligated to invite him back and got tickets for another event for date 3 (again, in 2 weeks). Both are busy with kids, and he did mention "interviewing" women on OLD. I have a rather permanent, younger and very handsome FWB - exclusive sexually but otherwise we go out separately and still on OLD. He's not a LTR material for a number of reasons but meets my needs in other areas and sometimes gives flowers. I basically just surf the web looking for long term match but not actively doing dates, only if something really catches my attention (this OLD guy is very sharp and is interesting intellectually)

But I'm not interested sexually in the "new" guy as potential BF and he might be on the same page. He is an executive in a organization which is my company's client. I don't mind maintaining a friendly connection just not dating after this date 3 but I need some script to let him know it won't be sexual without offending him.

Any suggestions?

It’s not up to you to maintain his feelings. Why not be honest? You’ve enjoyed his company, but are not interested in pursuing anything further? Would enjoy plantonic outings if this is something that interests him. You can gently bring up that perhaps your close proximity at work may be problematic, or whatever, but most people aren’t idiots and the truth is sometimes kinder than nothing at all. If you’re not rude, and don’t call him a loser or something like that, there is nothing for him to be “offended” about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Met a really nice guy on OLD. But I'm not interested sexually. I don't mind maintaining a friendly connection just not dating after this date 3 but I need some script to let him know it won't be sexual without offending him.

Any suggestions?

There. Got rid of the unnecessary details. Now maybe someone can offer a response to your question.
I haven't been dating in decades, but can't you just say, "I'm not feeling the chemistry, can we just be friends?"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Met a really nice guy on OLD. But I'm not interested sexually. I don't mind maintaining a friendly connection just not dating after this date 3 but I need some script to let him know it won't be sexual without offending him.

Any suggestions?

There. Got rid of the unnecessary details. Now maybe someone can offer a response to your question.
I haven't been dating in decades, but can't you just say, "I'm not feeling the chemistry, can we just be friends?"

Because that's why he's on OLD. For friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Met a really nice guy on OLD. But I'm not interested sexually. I don't mind maintaining a friendly connection just not dating after this date 3 but I need some script to let him know it won't be sexual without offending him.

Any suggestions?

There. Got rid of the unnecessary details. Now maybe someone can offer a response to your question.
I haven't been dating in decades, but can't you just say, "I'm not feeling the chemistry, can we just be friends?"

Isn’t it offensive for a man to offer being friends ?

[Anonymous]

You need to be honest. If that’s all he is in it for, he’ll disappear. Or if he’s weak, and bought in, he’ll hang on. So you need to be firm and honest that there will never be a relationship, but he’s interesting as a friend, or whatever the deal is…

[Anonymous]

How old are you, and how old is your FWB?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Met a really nice guy on OLD. But I'm not interested sexually. I don't mind maintaining a friendly connection just not dating after this date 3 but I need some script to let him know it won't be sexual without offending him.

Any suggestions?

There. Got rid of the unnecessary details. Now maybe someone can offer a response to your question.
I haven't been dating in decades, but can't you just say, "I'm not feeling the chemistry, can we just be friends?"

Because that's why he's on OLD. For friends.

That dredges up an old memory. Years ago my mom was encouraging me (a guy) to be active on a site for meeting other people of our religion. One of the reasons she gave was that in addition to meeting women, I could use the site to meet other guys as friends. I told her that advice was so horrible that she was no longer allowed to bring up my social life. I'm now married to a woman of a different religion. Sorry, mom!