Lying to a spouse

[Anonymous]

Have you ever told your spouse something that was untrue, or led them to believe something other than the full truth? Told a lie or omitted something or denied knowing something?

Have you ever been not 100% honest with them?

[Anonymous]

Many times

[Anonymous]

Yes, one thing that would be a lie of omission I think, but we have never actually had a conversation about the topic. It eats away at me often because I'm someone who never, ever lies.

[Anonymous]

What I spent on some earrings this morning. 🤣

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What I spent on some earrings this morning. 🤣

What was the price difference?

[Anonymous]

Nope I don't like to lie ever.

[Anonymous]

Many, many times.

[Anonymous]

You look great!

[Anonymous]

No but my husband has lied and omitted the truth many of times and it has led to me having no trust in him. He knows I don't trust him and we've done marriage counseling and he just started individual counseling to try and figure out/fix why he does it.

Just to note he lies about what he's eaten for lunch, to things he bought etc. It's not just me he lies to but everyone.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Thanks and some varied thoughts.

I was on another discussion board and someone said that in 20 years they had never lied or said anything untrue or given any false impressions to their spouse.

Maybe I lie more than the average person but the idea of never having ever said anything other than truth and honesty doesn't even seem humanly possible to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks and some varied thoughts.

I was on another discussion board and someone said that in 20 years they had never lied or said anything untrue or given any false impressions to their spouse.

Maybe I lie more than the average person but the idea of never having ever said anything other than truth and honesty doesn't even seem humanly possible to me.

I don't lie to my spouse at all. Never have. I don't lie in general. It isn't scruples, I just think it's too hard and not worth it -- people get caught at it. Also I can usually tell when people are lying, it's a skill I've had pretty much my whole life, so I think when I was a kid I kind of assumed that if I were to lie it wouldn't work, people would know.

[Anonymous]

All the time.

[Anonymous]

Nope, I am a terrible liar and it eats away at me.

[Anonymous]

I don’t believe I’ve ever lied but I’m sure I’ve omitted some relevant facts. I stand corrected - I know I’ve told him I had an orgasm when I hadn’t. I classify that as a good lie. I haven’t told him some things that I know he’d be upset about but I didn’t lie.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What I spent on some earrings this morning. 🤣

What was the price difference?

$100