Anxious attachment style

[Anonymous]

So, I recognize this in myself but I had a traumatic childhood.
My adult son also has some crippling anxiety and anxious attachment is part of his issue but he has not had a traumatic childhood.
Can this be something that occurs without a trigger?
Or, can something simple be the cause of this?

It's easy to recognize, but harder to fix.

[Anonymous]

Are you sure he didn't have childhood trauma?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you sure he didn't have childhood trauma?

he has said himself his childhood was fine, great even.

[Anonymous]

It could be genetic. I had severe anxiety and depression when I was younger, but there was no real reason for it. It just that I come from a family prone to it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Are you sure he didn't have childhood trauma?

he has said himself his childhood was fine, great even.

NP. He might not know. I didn't realize how manipulative and emotionally and verbally abusive my mother was until I was in my late 20's and had gotten away from her and learned from friends about normal interactions and kept hearing "that's messed up" any time I told a story about my childhood.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you sure he didn't have childhood trauma?

he has said himself his childhood was fine, great even.

NP. He might not know. I didn't realize how manipulative and emotionally and verbally abusive my mother was until I was in my late 20's and had gotten away from her and learned from friends about normal interactions and kept hearing "that's messed up" any time I told a story about my childhood.

well maybe, but all of our children said they had a great childhood.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Are you sure he didn't have childhood trauma?

he has said himself his childhood was fine, great even.

NP. He might not know. I didn't realize how manipulative and emotionally and verbally abusive my mother was until I was in my late 20's and had gotten away from her and learned from friends about normal interactions and kept hearing "that's messed up" any time I told a story about my childhood.

well maybe, but all of our children said they had a great childhood.

That seems unlikely. Is this something grown siblings discuss if the childhood was so happy?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Are you sure he didn't have childhood trauma?

he has said himself his childhood was fine, great even.

NP. He might not know. I didn't realize how manipulative and emotionally and verbally abusive my mother was until I was in my late 20's and had gotten away from her and learned from friends about normal interactions and kept hearing "that's messed up" any time I told a story about my childhood.

well maybe, but all of our children said they had a great childhood.

That seems unlikely. Is this something grown siblings discuss if the childhood was so happy?

they have told us this separately and when we were all together, and have thanked us for it, compared to some people they grew up with or know now.
I'm not really worried about this. We're a close enough family that htey would tell us.

[Anonymous]

Anxiety is contagious. Or at least I've read that in a few of the many books I've read on the subject. And hereditary.
The good news is it's fixable. Is he willing to take medicine?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Anxiety is contagious. Or at least I've read that in a few of the many books I've read on the subject. And hereditary.
The good news is it's fixable. Is he willing to take medicine?

he does take meds. I'm wondering if he needs to up dosage or change

[Anonymous]

Yes you can have it without childhood trauma. It can also become more pronounced based on who you're dating and their attachment style