Would you tell someone you don’t want all their kids at your home?
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Anonymous
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Horrible but true feeling here; I hope i don’t gave yo say it. Background: my son has a close friend from school and church. We know his entire family well and had them over once, adult family members.
Nice people but I don’t want to be close, I continue to let their son come over on occasion. The mother of the boy keeps hinting to come over, their daughters love my daughter. They have six kids in total, they are somewhat well mannered (littke nosy though) kids with exception to the youngest. I just don’t want them all over, I feel bad. She’s asked us a number of times over the years, ai buffed it. If she asks, hints again I feel like I would have to say something. |
Anonymous
| Does she have all your kids over to her house? |
Anonymous
| I tell people that our house is too small for their whole family to come over. Our friends have 3-4 kids each. Some of the kids are destructive and I just don’t want them in my house honestly. We meet at parks etc. |
Anonymous
| Why not offer to meet them at a playground |
Anonymous
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Meet them somewhere else. I don’t like having more than one kid over at a time. My kids know it and our house is small.
If people want to meet us with multiple kids, we meet at a playground. It would be weird for the other mom to insist that you have her kids over! |
Anonymous
| Why don’t you say that you don’t like to have a lot of kids over at once? Unless you have other kids come over, just not hers? I have a friend who told me they don’t like to host people in their house, and that was helpful - I never expect my kids to be asked over, but we continue to ask her kids over. I never asked why, it seems reasonable that some people love having a constant stream of people, some don’t want anyone, and most of us are in the middle somewhere. |
Anonymous
| Sorry, but I find having 8 kids over at once overwhelming. We'd be happy to have Frankie over Sunday afternoon though! |
Anonymous
Or if this mom wants your daughter to play with hers, she could invite your child over. |
Anonymous
No you can't say that. |
Anonymous
| just keep kicking it into the long grass / ignoring it |
Anonymous
👍🏻 |
Anonymous
| I have 3 kids and am totally not offended (and in fact expect) only 1 of my kids to be invited at a time to a play date. The exception is when someone has 2 kids the same ages as 2 of my kids and the siblings all play well together. Never have all 3 been invited for a drop off play date, only whole family events. Expecting to drop off or even bring over all 6 kids is unreasonable. Even just feeding snacks to that many kids and finding space for them all would be a lot. |
Anonymous
Np- why not? Sounds fine to me. I'm not babysitting a whole soccer team just because my kid is friends with 1 of them. |
Anonymous
| You should just cop to social anxiety so the adults know it's you/not them. We have a few kids but would never throw them all over at someone, so if you are getting a vibe that they are trying to invite them all over for free babysitting, they probably are. Brats or kids who don't listen/try to hurt our animals or break our kids toys- we just tell the truth about that in hopes they actually start to parent. They usually don't though- just tell us to discipline their kids if they misbehave. No thanks, I'd rather just not have then over. I think bigger families know others can be easily overwhelmed so we tend to have others over unless it's a like minded family. |
Anonymous
| Wow. So rude. And then you probably are one of those posters who complains that they are lonely and have no friends, and doesn’t understand why. |