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[Anonymous]

Friend of mine highly recommended their babysitter who used to be full-time nanny for them. I needed some temporary babysitting during a move, and she was just working part-time and needed extra hours. She seemed fine - and had just gotten married and moved into her own place so I gave her a nice post wedding gift along with paying her very generously. I also gave her a lot of stuff I had considered selling or donating during the move, like nice rugs, furniture, etc. Come to find out, she was stealing from me. When I couldn't find a gift card that my daughter received for her birthday, I called my friend who gave it to her. She luckily still had the receipt. I told her thought I must have thrown the gift card away accidentally. When I called the number on the receipt and explained the situation, the person informed me that the gift card had been spent - she went on to tell me the date & time it was spent and what was ordered and who it was being shipped to! It was the babysitter who ordered makeup while she was at my house babysitting to be delivered to her address! My husband said just to let it go and don't have her ever babysit again, and don't tell my friend. He feels this person who has done something so brazen can become unhinged and try to hurt us?! He also said he feels no obligation to tell the friend since she does not work for them anymore...I now notice a lot of stuff missing and wonder what else she stole.

[Anonymous]

Personally I would not let this slide and would call out the sitter.

[Anonymous]

TELL IT ALLLLLLL!!!!
WTF!!!!!!
Tell your friend so she looks for things the nanny may have stolen from her.
Why let this go?
THIEF!!!!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Friend of mine highly recommended their babysitter who used to be full-time nanny for them. I needed some temporary babysitting during a move, and she was just working part-time and needed extra hours. She seemed fine - and had just gotten married and moved into her own place so I gave her a nice post wedding gift along with paying her very generously. I also gave her a lot of stuff I had considered selling or donating during the move, like nice rugs, furniture, etc. Come to find out, she was stealing from me. When I couldn't find a gift card that my daughter received for her birthday, I called my friend who gave it to her. She luckily still had the receipt. I told her thought I must have thrown the gift card away accidentally. When I called the number on the receipt and explained the situation, the person informed me that the gift card had been spent - she went on to tell me the date & time it was spent and what was ordered and who it was being shipped to! It was the babysitter who ordered makeup while she was at my house babysitting to be delivered to her address! My husband said just to let it go and don't have her ever babysit again, and don't tell my friend. He feels this person who has done something so brazen can become unhinged and try to hurt us?! He also said he feels no obligation to tell the friend since she does not work for them anymore...I now notice a lot of stuff missing and wonder what else she stole.

At a minimum I would tel your friend in order to protect her as well.

The thief could end up in jail if she escalated her behavior -/ so it may be an act of kindness to tell her in a calm way that you are aware that she sued your daughter’s gift card. You could say you were especially Disappointed after all the kindness you showed her. This breach of trust is the reason why you will not use her services again.

However, I think your husband has a point and would avoid being overly dramatic or confrontational about it.

[Anonymous]

You actually have solid proof. I'd tell the friend so that at the minimum, she would not recommend this woman to other people.

[Anonymous]

I would be upset if you didn't share this information with me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would be upset if you didn't share this information with me.

I would be too

[Anonymous]

If this were my former nanny I would want to know. Otherwise, I would continue to give her a good reference in the future and would be having her over for babysitting.

[Anonymous]

I’d file a police report and tell your friend. Sounds like you have proof and these sneak thieves never face any consequences. Even if they get a slap on the wrist, maybe their name will show up in a background search if they try to nanny again.

[Anonymous]

I would tell the friend. What is she has been blaming someone else for missing items in her home.

[Anonymous]

I’d definitely tell the friend to have her check her own belongings, and to have her stop recommending this babysitter. I’d call the babysitter and instruct her to Venmo me the value of the gift card. If she doesn’t I’d call the police.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If this were my former nanny I would want to know. Otherwise, I would continue to give her a good reference in the future and would be having her over for babysitting.

Plus 1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’d definitely tell the friend to have her check her own belongings, and to have her stop recommending this babysitter. I’d call the babysitter and instruct her to Venmo me the value of the gift card. If she doesn’t I’d call the police.

+1

She committed a crime, and you have proof.

[Anonymous]

You have proof of a crime. Police is the only reasonable answer here. And tell your friend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’d file a police report and tell your friend. Sounds like you have proof and these sneak thieves never face any consequences. Even if they get a slap on the wrist, maybe their name will show up in a background search if they try to nanny again.

+1

I would file a police report.